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My blogs listed below….

Are You Living In The Present?

I was driving in the rain the other day, enjoying the rain specks on my window and smiling along. Suddenly, I noticed two cars drive across the train track without stopping at the stop sign that was right there. I even saw people driving and checking their phones as if they were glued to it. […]

Home Decor/ Early Spring Cleaning

Sping is my favorite season. Everything just seems right and the weather is light. The sun isn’t too hot, the wind isn’t too humid and the grass starts to get shiny and green. Our colorful friends with wings known as birds, butterflies and dragonflies start to come out and show off and the smell of […]

My Biggest Little Pet Peeves…

I figured this would be a funny post about small negative things, but in a good way. Knowing what makes you annoyed is a great way to understand yourself and find better ways to deal with it. This thought came to me after realizing how annoyed I was this morning at that fact that my […]

I Am Not My Hair- HAIR PREFERENCES IN DATING

Sometimes I notice with kinky hair or braids, i get more compliments from men of different race. They will go crazy lol With straight hair or blond hair, I get more compliments too usually from black men and they go crazzy lol If you know me, you know my go to style has always been […]

AN OLD FRIEND AND A NEW DAY

It is such a beautiful day today and it would be ashamed to have to stay indoors so I grabbed my dog, hopped in the car and we rode to the park. I saw two friends sitting at the table talking over their 11am lunch, 1 girl and what seems to be like her best […]

Cheers To Good Health

Lean Green Smoothie. Spinach, Kale, Pineapple, Oranges, topped with Chia seeds . Yum! Here is my story.ย  Smoothies always make me feel alive. I can talk about them for hours.ย  In June 2020, I was hospitalized when I used to have low blood cells. I nearly died and God showed out for me leading me […]

Godly Green Smoothie

Since I am now a certified yoga instructor and work for a science lab to help people with colon cancer testing, the deeper studies of healthy food intrigues me. It’s amazing how God is so smart, that He put the medicine in the plants for us. This smoothie was decided when the only fruits and […]

Get The Look

If anyone loves makeup and gets excited about makeup and shopping then it would have to be me because it’s fun and girly. lol I wish CoverGirl Queen Collection was still in Walmart because it was always my go to but it got played out. Fenty cosmetics is one of my favorites so I’ll be […]

Maybe Some People Are Mean Because They Are Just Constipated.

Now that this title has gotten your attention, you ever wonder why some people are mean or grumpy? You ever notice how you can be talking with them and they give you a nasty attitude? You may spend hours trying to figure out what you did or is it something about you to be treated […]

The Internet Disconnected, But We Inner Connected

Internet had issues this weekend (although I could still catch Wi-Fi on my phone) but I barely come on or stay on. Anyway, my niece and nephew stayed over as usual, I had to show them so many fun things that can be done without the internet and I also wanted to show them how […]

Good Doctors Are Hard To Find…They’re Angels in Scrubs

One of my doctors was so touched today when I went for my follow up appointment. She thanked me for the thank you card and she said that simple cards like that to healthcare workers means so much more to them than just money a lot of  times… She said she was taking photos of […]

Jealous Ones Still Envy

I overheard a woman saying that Godly people can’t envy lol I wanted to remind her the story I remembered from my bible study group days of how a God fearing king named King Saul had such envy for a sheppard boy named David who praised him and admired him.. David did so much to […]

Finally Watched Fifty Shades…But OMG I Have The Deets On Ana’s Lipstick!!!

I know I am late, but I finally watched two of the Fifty Shades series (Fifty Shades Freed and Fifty Shades Darker) …..but I ended up going backwards thoughโ€ฆI still have to see Part 1. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜‚ Backwards binger, no? However, I think I was more into Anastacia’s lip stick she wore so I had to […]

Girls Trip Planning.. Miami 2021 HERE I COME

So I have decided to go on an all girls trip/spa retreat in Miami with some ladies I met from Facebook groups for women in need of making other female friends. That sounds desperate, no? but I love this group and I really bond and click with these other girls. I’ve always wanted to go […]

5 Surprising Things That I’ve Experienced In 2020!!

2020 has been a total shock for some of us and things happened that caught us off guard. Perhaps since the era of the year changed, that was a bomb that landed on our heads. ๐Ÿ˜‚ This pandemic and the longest election ever has made this year one of the strangest years drizzled in what […]

Making Up In the Park..At Dawn.

So early this morning.. my dog and I just left the park..we didnt stay there long lol..a couple was thereโ€ฆhugging and making up..the guy was skinny and tall with skin as dark as the universe, the girl was short and thickโ€ฆthey argued..she got in the carโ€ฆdammitโ€ฆhe raised his voice..then said words to make her melt […]

How I WAKE Up My Skin With Self Care!

I am all about self care and as a woman I feel it’s in our birthright to ALWAYS enduldge in the method of pampering. Growing up, I’d see women walk in and out of the salons and their skin would be so flawless. I can remember admiring their beauty and hoping to treat myself the […]

A Simple ‘Pick Me Up’ Vitamin C Drink

Since I have given up coffee over 4 months ago, I have gotten very creative with making healthy drinks. So I have this addiction for adding fruits to my orange juice in the morning. I wanted to share this wake up drink that’s bursting with vitamin c. I like to wake up tofruit blended drinks […]

Oatmeal Raisin Pecan Cookies! YUM! Fall Time Baking

I can’t resist oatmeal pecan raisin cookies, especially during the fall and upcoming holiday season. What could be more fun than scourging for a new recipe and baking with family during these times, right? This type of weather just gets me in the baking mood. If you have nothing else to do for the remainder […]

Don’t Get This Twisted!!

This fall weather with the warm sun gleaming on my skin made me hop in the Camaro today with the windows down. I grabbed my Chihuahua/Bull dog and we went for a hike along the lake. What made our hike so enjoyable and easy was this leggings set by Fashion Niva called Don’t Get This […]

Secrets To Your Dogs Happiness

Take your dog on healthy morning walks. Don’t keep them cooped up. My boy will be 12 in 5 more months and I have been walking him daily ever since he was a pup. Judging from this photo of our morning walk, he was so happy and smiling as the autumn wind blew through his […]

8 Things I Learned From Facebook

Ahh facebook…the book that is an open book where people don’t say things to your face. (Insert thumbs up emoji here ____ ๐Ÿ‘) During the year 2020, I had a total wake up call of re-evaluating myself. When I say re-evaluate, I had to sit back and observe. So over the year, I have learned […]

Cheetah/Leopard Girl Vibes

So I have a secret..lean in closer and I’ll tell you.. ๐Ÿคซ a little closer…….. ๐Ÿ˜Š I HAVE AN OBSESSION WITH LEOPARD CHEETAH PRINTS!!!! What could welcome the season of autumn than the prints of a cheetah? When I saw these were on sale from Fashion Nova, I immediatly made my purchase online. I have […]

How To Embrace Your Chocolate, Sistah.

I just got an email from one of my blog readers telling me sometimes she doesn’t feel  confident with her dark complexion. She’s so very beautiful both inside and out and maybe 19 years old… so I am trying to figure out why would she be so concerned.  Beauty on the inside brings out beauty […]

Dress With Class If You Don’t Want To Attract Trash

Yes, crew! I have been a victim of this in my early 20s. I remember wondering why did I always attracted perverts or men that only wanted to try getting into my pants. Insert 20 something photo below. ๐Ÿ‘‡ Can you believe I went on a date in the left photo dressed like that and […]

Catepillars and Butterflies.

Here is a photo of me in 7th grade before I physically transformed and blossomed into a butterfly ๐Ÿ›๐Ÿฆ‹ I also realized that people who were ugly on the inside can transform to inner beauty. Remember when some of you all would call me all those rude names in the 7th grade and made fun […]

KiCk.PuSH

I just finished my 2 miles and I almost wanted to stop, but I kept pushing through to get to the end. I was always told if you want something hard enough you have to put in effort and make it happen. You can’t just sit around and wait for things to happen without kicking […]

Are You A Little Red Corvette? Fast and Easy?

After driving in the rain from my favorite place, Taco Bell ๐ŸŒฎ, I smiled as I turned up the volumn knob on the radio. Prince’s song Little Red Corvette filled my ears as I imagined the icon singing with his guitar on stage. I was taken by surprise as I had a chance to actually […]

Blueberry Tea and Meeee

It’sย  Sunday Funday so you know what that means. I prefer sipping from my selection of tea in the sun on Sundays. This afternoon’s decision of blueberry tea led me to soak in some sun at our local bakery- BAKER’S SWEETS ( It’S too bad they weren’t open because I could really use one of […]

Why I Don’t Cuss? It’s NOT Feminine

A lot of people ask why I never curse (cuss)..even when I was working at Blue Cross Blue Sheild they’d ask me. lol I’m okay if my friends do it because it’s funny and we crack up.ย  I’ll cuss to myself, but I never cuss around people and I don’t cuss on my posts. lolI […]

Simply Summer Hippie

So when I tell you I simply love this dress I SIMPLY love this dress! Not only is it a dress, but it’s a swim suit cover up. There are times when I go to the beach and don’t want to have all the attention drawn to my curvaceous assets so this comes in handy […]

Maybe She Was An Angel…

Have you ever had a friendly connection with certain people because of their energy and their vibe? They’re the kind of people that make you say, to them, “I love your energy!” because it’s what they pass along and spread to you. The next thing you know, you are in a good feeling because of […]

Sayin Yes To The Bianca Dress From Sincere Sally Boutique!

As women, we all want to feel feminine and fresh; nothing tops it off than a simple breezy dress. When Sincere Sally Boutique sent me this dress, my heart dropped as I opened the packaging. I rushed to put it on and instantly imagined myself showing it off in public. The cool fabric against my […]

Sizzle Into Summer With Summer Fashion!

  As soon as I felt the blazing sun on my skin and saw the clear blue skies, I instantly felt a rush of excitement. Visions of an ice cream truck, the beach and SUMMER DRESSES started to dance in my head. Let me say that again, SUMMER DRESSES! I instantly hopped on the couch […]

She Complimented Me At The Captain D’s Drive Thru: Acts of Kindness

Beautiful acts of kindness can happen anywhere. At a bus stop, at the mall, the nail salon or randomly at a Captain D’s drive thru. ๐Ÿ’ŸAww the cashier at Captain D’s (very young girl maybe early 20s) told me my lashes were pretty.ย  I’m always the one giving women compliments, but this time a sweet […]

MY TESTIMONY OF HOW JESUS HEALED MY LOW BLOOD

โคโคMY TESTIMONY OF HOW JESUS HEALED MY LOW BLOODโคโค I promised I’d tell my testimony of being in the hospital last week..for low blood anemia…when my body was in pain and I couldn’t walk, talk or eat from being so weak and a fever of 105. I was shaking and after dealing with the pain […]

He’s Just Not That Into You..or He’s Just That Intimidated, Sis!

Hey you. Yeah you. The one sobbing and crying constantly checking your phone to see if you have a miss call or a text. You’ve already sent him 3 messages before he has even responded. You’re checking his page constantly and seeing whose photos he’s liking as you dwell in self pity. Okay. STOP IT! […]

Growing Up Submissive

๐Ÿ˜ŠI grew up in a very dominant and submissive household ๐Ÿก lol My father was dominant and paid all the bills ..where my mom was a quiet submissive housewife. A little homemaker. She was never a loud argumentive woman with my father…probably because of his temper lol Because of their dominant/submissive traits, I grew up […]

Is Your Bae’s Actions Loud Or Muted?

I get so many emails from people I do tarot readings for asking me, Why is he doing this?Why is he doing that? Is he still into me? Honestly you don’t need a psychic to answer that question. The proof is right there. If someone is making you question them and you’re not getting clarity […]

Did Dating Guys With Sports Cars Led Me To Get My Own Sports Car?

I was asked what made me get a Camaro..lol I got a Camaro because I would be impressed whenever I dated guys with sports cars. The rush of excitement I’d get whenever they’d speed on the highway with me beside them. The car wax and the nice rims. The looks and stares that other people […]

I’m A Flower Still Waiting To Be Given Flowers…

๐Ÿ’Okay so I can imagine all the weird facial expressions that people would give me when I told them Iโ€™ve never received flowers from a man before. Iโ€™ve had people tell me, โ€œYeah right. You lying!โ€ but honestly Iโ€™m not. sips tea โ˜•๐Ÿ˜‚ By the way, tulips are my favorite flowers. ๐Ÿ˜Š So I guess […]

How I Maintained My Curves Without Working Out HARD For 3 Weeks.

I haven’t worked out in about 3 weeks because I don’t want to lose any of my good weight. I’d like to keep some of my fun body parts lol I worked out for 100 days straight ever since New Years Eve 2019 (big goal) and I recently finished a 10k (another big goal!) When […]

To Be Envied Or Inspire..

To be envied or to inspire??..that is the question. I had a girl told me she used to be jealous of me and I was a bit surprised.. Honestly I’d rather inspire people than to be envied. If people are envious then you have no friends and I only have a few…. always wanted a […]

You See Their Rainbows,๐ŸŒˆ But Maybe They’ve Had Storms…. โ›ˆ

Sometimes people will hate on you for no reason before they know your whole story. Lol WELLโ€ฆ.Iโ€™m not perfect.ย My body was never as fit. My skin isnโ€™t that perfect (Iโ€™m just a genius with how to do makeup lol) Sometimes I talk so fast you may not understand me but I love it.ย ย I was never […]

And My Angels Spoke…

Having a powerful 3rd eye is one of the best gifts I use because I am able to hear from other dimensions. My angels and my spirits are very different and I can tell the difference when they visit me. My angels are always very cheerful and super sweet. My spirts are very strict. I […]

ReNita Says Adopt A Pet..

Save a life and adopt a dog or a cat. If they can’t find a home by a certain amount of time they are put down. Especially with Valentine’s Day coming up..if you are lonely or don’t have kids yet lol .I’m not just saying that because I’m a dog/cat person. โค But pets are […]

Live It Like Lizzo! ๐Ÿ’Œ

I’m a big Lizzo fan..I jam to Truth Hurts every weekend!!! I LOVE HER!! โค lol I wish I had more friends with her personality and coolness. She seems like someone I could hang out with and laugh with. I see so many people say they wish they had her confidence like she can’t be […]

So Who Was Billie Jean? Hmmm

I’ve been listening to Michael Jackson’s Thriller album all day and I noticed that he mentions Billie Jean in his Wanna Be Starting Something song. In this song he says ‘she is always talking and that her mouth is a motor. He even resumes to sing that, ‘if you can’t feed a baby then don’t […]

Not Everyone Is Rude..There Are Still Some Good People Here…

I usually start my mornings with yoga and it helps to keep me looking forward to positive outlooks. It has been so long since I’ve encountered anything with negative people that I forgot. I usually have a brain that keeps me in my own little world. Well, I encountered two strangers so far this year […]

Seperate The Body From The Mind* Words From A Sapiosexual.*

I love my body, but my body and my mind are 2 different things. lol One is just flesh and one is who I am. I have only fell my hardest for one or two men that never seemed like they were just trying to date my shell (my body) The slower you try not […]

Yes, But Are You Working On You Prior To A Relationship?

2010.. This is 24 year old me! ๐Ÿ™‚ If I could re-live my 20s again and start over I would. I accomplished a lot, but I felt like I wasted time focusing on things/people that were less important. See, in your 20s, you’re suppose to be enjoying life and be stress free. You’re suppose to […]

It’s The Most WONDERFUL Time Of The Year..(or busiest?)

How many more gifts do I have to wrap? After surviving a busy evening of traffic in the pouring rain, my head feels as if someone smashed it with a hammer. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ (Oh, I am so dramatic. Perhaps it’s the author in me.) Yoooo!!! Do not get me started on how jam packed Wal Mart […]

NO MORE DARK CIRCLES, BAE!! ๐Ÿ’‹

If I stay up a little later than I should and wake up to dark circles, I have a “number 1” go to that I use. This “go to” makes it look like I got 20 hrs of sleep. ๐Ÿ˜‚ Okay, so here is my secret: the Born This Way concealer by Too Faced Cosmetics […]

Men See You How You SEE Yourself. So Work On You

If you want a man to treat you like a queen, I believe you must already see yourself as a queen and already see yourself as class. I am in my 30s and I didn’t realize this secret until my mid 20s. Lol I would be like, “why am I getting treated like I am […]

โคChocolate and Caramel On Sundays

Chocolate on caramel skin on Sundays. Let’s share an ice cream sundae. Beaches. Fresh peaches. My heart is on a galaxy it never reaches. Inhaling the salt air..not giving a care. Your dark hands stuck in my kinky hair. With each walk..We exhale as we talk. You are the moment I live in. Can we […]

They Want To See You Lose..Why Give Up?

I went to bed early and here I am now, up at 10 minutes to 4am because my dog needed to tinkle and so did I. Before dawn, it dawned on me. I notice so many people give up on things in life and when they do, sometimes they get more reaction from others than […]

Rome Wasn’t Built In A Day

I was at the local park yesterday morning and I was reading the directions map (You know…the board that lets you know about the park via gazeba, kayaking, bridge etc) Well, if I was reading it right, it showed that the lake park was being planned in 2012. I was like, OMG wow. They really […]

Be Thankful For The Little Things, Especially Your Family.

It’s the Sunday the week of Thanksgiving and I am listening to my family members laugh and tell jokes. (Although it isn’t Thanksgiving yet, it feels that way with the family atmosphere ๐Ÿ™‚ Every time we are all together it feels like a holiday gathering. ) Sometimes people get annoyed with family or have arguments […]

So What If They Don’t Support You? Don’t Wait On Their Approval! KEEP GOING!

Sometimes I see my friends on social media acknowledge that no one supports them. While getting a positive boost and self fulfillment from others on our accomplishments is a good thing, we shouldn’t rely on it. I feel you shouldn’t rely on this action because it isn’t healthy. Some people don’t get support and then […]

Encouraging Mom To Get In Shape! Can It Be Done? ๐Ÿค”

I told my mama that she and my dad should join the senior citizens workout class at the hospital and she cussed me out and said, “sh*t, yo dad ain’t gonna do that! He don’t even move around at his own damn house.” ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ I walk at the park each day and she keeps saying […]

You Want To Be Loved, But Have No Self Love…

You can tell if a woman loves herself or not based off what she settles for in life. I can tell plenty of stories back from my early 20s and give examples below lol *I remember when I was 22 yrs old, I took a risk to see my ex bf in D.C with only […]

Fix Another Queen’s Crown ๐Ÿ‘‘

I like making women feel good about their appearance and being helpful to uplift their confidence. I feel if we do this, maybe the world will be free of haters because we’ll be inspiring each other when we help each other. Maybe I’m just too nice. ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ I’ve never had any interest in being a […]

Are You Setting Daily Goals? YES, DAILY!

Over the weekend, I was talking with my niece on the importance of setting small goals daily and setting big goals during the month or through the year. Never think that setting a small goal means you are thinking small. Small goals are made for your daily routine and are little things to help you […]

Dogs Are The Best Kinds of Therapy..Go Get You One!!

When my family and I first got Knock Off, I can remember him being in a little cardboard box in our house. My aunt had brought him over and had said he would be a good friend for my niece who was 4 years old at the time. He was so tiny and so cute. […]

Stay Active Through Your Pain

Look what I found WOW! This is 19 or 20 year old me…in my sophmore dormitory back in college. Lol I think my sophmore year was my best time there, as you can see lol. I was hiding so much pain behind my smile and had finally gained some of the strength back I had […]

Little Waist..WEIGHT A MINUTE!!

Ummm ๐Ÿ™„ I wasn’t expecting to get my waist this tiny, but that’s only because I’m trying to bulk up by New Years. I had to clean up and tighten a little before building more bricks to my temple ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช I got rid of belly fat… now to get ripped and she-bulk…which means earlier mornings […]

Fenty Cosmetics- Pros and Cons

So Fenty foundation and concealer is what I wear a lot now when applying my makeup. The pros about the makeup is that it comes in so many different shades and that it feels light weight on my skin. It blends well and it makes my skin look flawless. I’m so glad I have finally […]

Don’t Hate On Other People’s HAPPINESS ! ๐Ÿ’

I did a psychic reading for a client who said they were unhappy because people were getting married and pregnant. You can’t be that way if you want to have that too. You can’t be a hypocrite to not be happy for people but expect them to be happy for you. Hey! I’m not married […]

Do People Want What They Can’t Have?

Sometimes it would seem like attached men pursued me more than ones that weren’t attached and the ones that weren’t attached pursued the attached lol It would seem like great women or men pursued or stayed with someone that didn’t make them happy. Is this because they don’t know their worth or just love the […]

Jump In. Just Do It!

My niece is a very talented young lady. She shows off her gift of singing in the church and in music class, but sometimes she wants to show her other talents. I asked her what is holding her back. She rolled her eyes with a sigh and said, “Oh, someone will probably laugh at me.” […]

Recharge. Reset. ReNew

As I sit here at the kitchen table sipping the tea from my mug, my dog is staring in my face with those Chihuahua eyes. He knows that I have to be up early in the morning for a very important meeting. I can sense him telling me that I need to stop and rest […]

About Me…

Renita A. Burgess is a national best selling author and entrepreneur who has written over 30 books for Amazon and Barnes and Noble. She is a woman of many hats; having made interview appearances on both television and radio regarding her work. ReNita’s motivation and drive all began when she entered MANY beauty pageants and […]