How To Embrace Your Chocolate, Sistah.

I just got an email from one of my blog readers telling me sometimes she doesn’t feel  confident with her dark complexion. She’s so very beautiful both inside and out and maybe 19 years old… so I am trying to figure out why would she be so concerned.  Beauty on the inside brings out beauty on the outside however. I am always humbled when I get emails from my readers that I inspire, but if you have low confidence because of your skin, you are going to have to work on your inner confidence FIRST and foremost. This mentality is forced down from the slave masters and from the media, sadly. Please don’t allow this to burden you from those who are still in mental slavery. They’re the losers! To judge someone for their complexion is insane- rather lightskin or darkskin.

I remember seeing this African model on MTV many years ago and she had a short bald hair cut. Many black people (our own people) would say she was unattractive while the other races praised her. However, when she walked the runway and spoke with confidence she appeared and seemed beautiful because she was beautiful from within. If she had any flaws, her inner beauty made her look super beautiful.

One thing I love to do is learn from the African models on Instagram and whenever I am traveling.. because they have amazing confidence and they embrace their feminism. When I’d travel to big cities, these ladies were full of confidence and always loved to dress up.

I admit, I am a stalker of Sedanase, Ghanan and Ethiopian models and I love being inspired by other women instead of being envious. LEARN AND EMBRACE! Most importanty, if you really want your dark skinned to be noticed and feel confident, the secret is to wear bright cool or bright warm colors. Another tip is to add a hint of cocoa butter oil to the skin or cheeks. This adds a certain glow to the skin. For some reason that is like seeing magic. Trust me! 

If I were darker, I’d probably wear bright colors all the time just because of how it draws attention to chocolate skin. Luckily, you don’t have to really worry about acne scars or wrinkles lol You just need to love being you and keep looking good and feeling confident. Hope this helps..
-ReNita XOXO 💕💋

Are You A Little Red Corvette? Fast and Easy?

After driving in the rain from my favorite place, Taco Bell 🌮, I smiled as I turned up the volumn knob on the radio. Prince’s song Little Red Corvette filled my ears as I imagined the icon singing with his guitar on stage. I was taken by surprise as I had a chance to actually understand the lyrics and the meaning. I mean, growing up I always assumed he was referring to a red Corvette but aha I was misled. Prince was symbolizing a fast woman being like a fast car. It dawned on me

Little red Corvette
Baby you’re much too fast
Little red Corvette
You need a love that’s gonna last

How many of you have been a little red Corvette or felt guilty of moving fast? lol It can be hard, especially when liking someone so soon. If you are looking for love, you are going to have to slow down and take it seriously. Serious means taking things slow. (refer to lyrics listed above lol ☝️)  Although sex is apart of human nature, we must know how to seperate the mind from the lower anatomy in the early stages of dating when seeking a loving relationship. Many daters were lucky to still marry the one after giving it up on the first night, but in most cases it isn’t a guarantee. You should always be careful to guard your heart. (and your health.)

Coming from a guy like Prince (who is as sexual as they come, bless his soul) he is even admitting that men want love from women who aren’t fast.  Sometimes women will become easy and fast when they think it’s a way to get a man to love them fast (because men are stereotyped as sex hungry) but actually the anticipation and sticking to your standards is what keeps them interested. (It makes you a challenge and challenges are more exciting and adventurous like a real little red corvette.)

Why I Don’t Cuss? It’s NOT Feminine

A lot of people ask why I never curse (cuss)..even when I was working at Blue Cross Blue Sheild they’d ask me. lol I’m okay if my friends do it because it’s funny and we crack up.  I’ll cuss to myself, but I never cuss around people and I don’t cuss on my posts. lol
I may get by with “damn” or “hell” from time to time 😂 but I don’t use the “S” word or the “F” word or the “B” word.  I let the characters in my books use them. 😂😂😂 You may say not cussing is just as dry as a person who doesn’t have a fun drink on the weekend or a cheat meal during a diet (I am a sinner to those two pleasures. I surrender!!! lol)
Although I dressed like a boy growing up, (so mama put me in a lot of beauty pageants to get me more girly lol) I was always raised that cussing and being loud is not feminine and is a masculine trait..so I don’t really do it.

If my friends do it, I laugh and I’m fine with it 😂 very normal and I don’t judge. I was told a curse is a curse lol

Here is a secret, I always found that men pursued me a lot when I never cussed or acted loud too. In high school and college, other girls did that and I’d feel left out because I didn’t know how to cuss in a cool way. When I did, they’d laugh at me because of how I talked lol. My mama always made sure we came across as respectful and it showed from home training. My sister and I were very quiet girls. 🙂 and my niece is the same too….except I’d get in fist fights with boys in elementary, jr high and high school 😂😂😂 My mama always said to never hit anyone until they hit me first. Yes, that is the only time I’d come out of my sweet charm. (I just didn’t cuss!) 😂😂😂

Simply Summer Hippie

ReNita is wearing the Astria dress from Haute Swimwear….. Straw hat is from Lime Lush Boutique 🥝

So when I tell you I simply love this dress I SIMPLY love this dress! Not only is it a dress, but it’s a swim suit cover up. There are times when I go to the beach and don’t want to have all the attention drawn to my curvaceous assets so this comes in handy a great deal.

I was sent this sexy little number from a company called Haute Swim Wear. Their clothing brand has swim suits, bikinis and cover ups so go check them out. I love the feel of this dress. It’s light weight and a bit see through so be sure to wear a slip underneath if you are wearing it as a dress and wear your bikini or bathing suit under if wearing it as a cover up at the beach or pool.

The feel is sheer and it has a v- neck plunging neckline with the stretchy material at the waist. (you know, the material that shows off those curves and gives you that shape.) The BEST thing about this dress is that one size fits most!

I had looked online for what seemed like hours for the perfect hat to rock with this dress so the universe showed me a company called Lime Lush. I quickly made my purchase and once it arrived, I paired the hat with the dress and realized the shaded colors screamed of lemonade on the front porch in the afternoon.

👗Astria dress by Haute Swimwear https://haute-swimwear.com/products/astria-dress-1

(use my discount: RENITA15 for Haute Swimwear)

👒Straw brim hat by Lime Lush https://www.limelush.com/natural-wide-brim-straw-hat-with-leopard-ribbon-and-bow/

Seperate The Body From The Mind* Words From A Sapiosexual.*

I love my body, but my body and my mind are 2 different things. lol One is just flesh and one is who I am. I have only fell my hardest for one or two men that never seemed like they were just trying to date my shell (my body) The slower you try not the rush the more I build attraction for you. My shell is something that will turn into ashes one day..I just make sure I take care of it to the upmost while I am alive. My soul is soooo amazing and interesting. 🙂 It’s also why I’m so picky. I am a sapiosexual. If you are attractive, I have to be even more attracted to your mind. I fall for mental connection. You want me for what’s inside or you want me for what’s both on the inside and the out? ❤

Still Searching For My Chic Tribe In 2020! I NEED SOME GIRLFRIENDS!!!!! 😂

I love making friends with women when I travel. I always give a compliment and we’ll hit it off and then I’ll be like, why didn’t I ask for her facebook ? Lol (then I don’t see them anymore.) Sometimes it can be hard to find friends with some women, especially when society makes them think we need to compete. No offense or not to sound cocky, but if you are an attractive female it makes it even hard. If you have a diverse personality it can be hard too. I am a little of both. I am very careful and extra nice when I try to make friends.

Some women make it seem like because I like to get dolled up, that it means I must think I’m better. Nah. I am not that way at all, but we can both feel like we are magical. 😊 We should feel like a powerful group when we get together instead.

We can encourage each other with inspiration and motivation to make each other better. I am not interested in that competition or envy stuff. I am never the envious or competitive type, but I would find it hard to fit in. You can’t be friends if you seek or worry on that. I don’t want that at all.

Honestly, I just want to find my chic tribe. I want a bond with like minded women like myself. No drama. No competition. Just a good time. Good laughs and discussing the topic of men over good drinks. 🍸🍸😂

If you have a man problem, I want our group of friends to come over so you won’t be up crying all night. (with a gallon of Ben & Jerry’s ice cream. 😂)

To say I am popular on social media, I only have 2 close friends in reality that I talk to. One is married with a family of her own and one lives with his girlfriend in Miami. The married friend is like a sister to me and I wish I could make her into a clone because we have been best friends since college. (but she lives an hour and a half away in Charleston. 😫 )

I have always felt more more like myself talking to the same energy as hers or with guy friends (or feminine gay men lol) So I’m kind of just a loner waiting on building my clique. 😂 I am into so many different things so I hope others accept that and click with my diverse side. Lol

I know finding more friends is an insecurity I must work on. This is one of my goals for 2020; to find some real life friends that click with me. It can seem hard, but I am still looking to find my girls. I want some friends that love to go to the gym, do 5ks, have a wine and painting girls night out, go see movies, comedy shows. I know they exist lol