I Finally Told My BFF To Be My Valentine And He Said…YES

With Valentine’s Day approaching sometimes Cupid starts to point his arrow at some of the most surprising targets. Some of us will spend this day saying it’s no big deal (bc it isn’t) some of us will enjoy it with a bucket of ice cream and a LMN movie while others will go all out celebrating it with someone we love (rather it be a loving partner, a date, family or our girlfriends) …

Well, after a month of dropping hints, I finally told my best friend of nearly 10 years that I wanted him to be my Valentine and he agreed… Things seem old fashioned and that’s what I like about him. He has always been there for me and this will be my 2nd ever Valentine’s EVER. So I would be more than honored to celebrate it with no one other than one of the closest friends in my life that I trust.. lol

He always gives me and my mom the best advice😊 What’s funny is that we’re born 1 month and 1 day apart..same life path numbers. .twin flames.. lol  As soon as he said “sure babe.”  I got nervous 😩 not sure why when he’s HIM… He’s been through so many things with me and so I have with him.

Lol kinda wanna change my mind bc I am still in relax mode after my final iron transfusion last week lol So I dont wanna get cute or do much right now  😂

but he says “I’m sure you’re gorgeous, babe”… lol 🤦‍♀️🥰 Now I can’t back out lol We’ll just enjoy pizza and laugh at things as usual. 😂 Virtual amidst covid perhaps. He’s my best friend and that’s all that matters.

Making Up In the Park..At Dawn.

So early this morning.. my dog and I just left the park..we didnt stay there long lol..a couple was there…hugging and making up..the guy was skinny and tall with skin as dark as the universe, the girl was short and thick…they argued..she got in the car…dammit…he raised his voice..then said words to make her melt of how he loved coming home to his baby and his girl… Aww they must have been a family..once….I smiled…his effort was truth…I walked around the park (only halfway around.)…respected them..got in my own car..as the autumn wind kissed me…I smiled…didnt want to disturb. .their groove…hoping they reconciled….
wordz….from my sight.. ❤

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Are You A Little Red Corvette? Fast and Easy?

After driving in the rain from my favorite place, Taco Bell 🌮, I smiled as I turned up the volumn knob on the radio. Prince’s song Little Red Corvette filled my ears as I imagined the icon singing with his guitar on stage. I was taken by surprise as I had a chance to actually understand the lyrics and the meaning. I mean, growing up I always assumed he was referring to a red Corvette but aha I was misled. Prince was symbolizing a fast woman being like a fast car. It dawned on me

Little red Corvette
Baby you’re much too fast
Little red Corvette
You need a love that’s gonna last

How many of you have been a little red Corvette or felt guilty of moving fast? lol It can be hard, especially when liking someone so soon. If you are looking for love, you are going to have to slow down and take it seriously. Serious means taking things slow. (refer to lyrics listed above lol ☝️)  Although sex is apart of human nature, we must know how to seperate the mind from the lower anatomy in the early stages of dating when seeking a loving relationship. Many daters were lucky to still marry the one after giving it up on the first night, but in most cases it isn’t a guarantee. You should always be careful to guard your heart. (and your health.)

Coming from a guy like Prince (who is as sexual as they come, bless his soul) he is even admitting that men want love from women who aren’t fast.  Sometimes women will become easy and fast when they think it’s a way to get a man to love them fast (because men are stereotyped as sex hungry) but actually the anticipation and sticking to your standards is what keeps them interested. (It makes you a challenge and challenges are more exciting and adventurous like a real little red corvette.)

Dear Future Hubby, Here Is What You Should Know Before Meeting My Parents…

Dear Future Husband, (lol)

 Being a woman that has caught the bouquet in her sister’s wedding, I have decided to take notes for you. With that being said, you must know a background on my parents. Lol In order to marry me, you have to go through my parents first. Actually, go through my father first before asking me (according to my mom..because they say it’s respectful lol)

Here are some tips. (He is a grumpy old man and he asks questions back to back; sometimes before you have a chance to answer.) The way that I get on his good side is by letting him win debates or telling him he is right just so he’ll shut up lol 🤦‍♀️ He is from the ancient times and doesn’t know much about technology either.

*1. He admires guys that work hard and if you love sports cars and baseball, it’s a plus. Long ago, I only had 2 guys got meet my father  and one did not click with him lol

One guy tried to bring up football and my father cut him off 😂 He was like, “Oh nope. I’m into baseball and basketball. I don’t watch a lot of football unless it’s superbowl.” 🤦‍♀️😂 (The guy was so embarassed lol)

My mom is usually the first one and my dad is for when things are really serious.. So I usually wait before letting anyone meet him…  

*2. If you have a degree or have served in the military he likes that too. He is impressed with hard work and education. He likes that my brother in law is good with computers and graduated the top of his class at USC. So if you’re smart too, that’s a big plus. He admires hardworkers and providers. He believes men should be the head of the house.

As for my mom, she is the sweet one. If you can sweet talk her and show her that you care about me then she welcomes you with open arms. She loves baking and cooking, so to win her over, you need to know some good recipies or love to eat her amazing meals. If you can brag on her cooking then she goes crazy. Lol 😂

I often ponder on what it will be like when I am asked to be married. My parents are very old fashioned and I would love their acceptance and blessing for a healthy marriage. What are your thoughts when it comes to meeting parents or being introduced? As for me, I’m a nervous wreck. 😂 (but it’a a good thing.)

Sincerely,

Your Future Bride 👰🏾

I’m A Flower Still Waiting To Be Given Flowers…

💐Okay so I can imagine all the weird facial expressions that people would give me when I told them I’ve never received flowers from a man before. I’ve had people tell me, “Yeah right. You lying!” but honestly I’m not. sips tea ☕😂 By the way, tulips are my favorite flowers. 😊 So I guess I’m just a bit old fashioned, huh? I love nice things, but the little gestures means so much. Receiving a text that says “Good morning baby, good morning queen.”  is the closest thing to receiving flowers sometimes.

The feeling of importance and being on someone’s thoughts is just like virtually handing me flowers. I get all giggly and roll around in bed whenever I’d receive a morning text. I can only imagine what it will be like when I am gifted flowers 😂. Sigh. When dating, I never ask a man because I wait to see if he will so I am waiting 😂 (or hinting. Lol)

Not sure if men still think flowers are a sweet gesture because times have changed. I love flowers because I enjoy gardening and growing flowers. Flowers remind me of a beautiful woman that’s rare to find. They should be cared for and nurtured, they’re delicate and they attract bees and butterflies (just like women attract men and are pursued.)

The sight and smell of flowers always uplifts my mood and they are so naturally beautiful within and out. It’s amazing how something created from God can grow from the earth and just be a simple expression to save a relationship at times. Not many women care about flowers as much as I do, I’m told. I was told that some men don’t believe in giving flowers anymore because they think all women want material things. 

 What I am saying is, while I don’t mind being spoiled, a bouquet of flowers makes me happy. 😊 I know I could have just asked guys and had them given to me, but I don’t want to to ask for special moments like that. I want whom ever I’m with to just surprise me and catch me off guard. I love surprises!! 😊 I used to feel like a misfit because so many girls and women have already experienced that moment and here I am at age 34 still awaiting like a 15 year old at a sleepover ; giggling about what her first kiss will be like lol

The good thing about it is that who ever gives me my flowers will be the first, making him someone to stand out than anyone from my past. 😊

I’ve had guys tell me they would have given me flowers but it was usually the ones I wasn’t interested in lol (topsy turvy, huh?) lol My best friend told me that his girlfriend is 35 and that he was the first to give her flowers. Everyone has their season or flower season. Everyone has their once in a life time moment that happens on it’s own without force.

I remember thinking, how is it that they call me I’m beautiful but I haven’t received flowers yet? I’d be thinking, ‘Is there something wrong with me?’ Hahaha but no, there is nothing wrong with me and I don’t want any other woman to feel that way either. I see it as God holding off on that moment so the man meant for me will show off. God saves things that are meant to be special for you for the special person and at the special time. Just as when you have to wait until Christmas to open your amazing gifts, it will feel more special. I have a bucket list of things I am still waiting to do that I haven’t experienced yet with a man and I know it’s a sign from God that those moments will be shared with the one I may marry …making it the best!!!!😉

So raise your glasses and make a toast 🥂 for knowing that your inexperience is a gift awaiting to be unwrapped. ..

For the moment, see yourself as a flower awaiting to be sniffed by a handsome and rare bee. 🌺🐝