Now that this title has gotten your attention, you ever wonder why some people are mean or grumpy? You ever notice how you can be talking with them and they give you a nasty attitude? You may spend hours trying to figure out what you did or is it something about you to be treated this way and then you allow yourself to consume this energy from them. Energy never dies, it travels. Positive energy can travel or negative energy can travel in you. If someone is in a bad mood it can affect you as well, allowing you to mimic their actions. People may be mean because of things they have going on. maybe they are going through a divorce, maybe they have annoying kids, maybe they feel they can’t do things right in life. (You never know) I remember once I had this manager who always seemed upset and stubborn, basically like a sarcastic- snobby- smart ass. I would wonder how can someone be so mean. He randomly mentioned he can’t remember the last time he had good sleep. After hearing this, I put the clues together and realized his negative attitude came from him not taking care of himself. When you do not get enough sleep you can start your day off wrong and blow people off, affecting their mood because you were not pleasant.
Another situation was that a person I know was always grumpy and being snappy. During a random conversation, they mentioned they needed a laxative or a good bowel movement. (BINGO! That is their reason. They are constipated and feeling uncomfortable due to not releasing the stored food lol) So whenever people are rude to you for no apparent reason you have to stop to think, maybe they have issues in their personal life and are upset at the world. If you are someone not always happy or feeling well, please try to be nice to others because it does not give you a reason to take it out on them; that is how so many bad things happen in the world today due to negative energy from others.
I overheard a woman saying that Godly people can’t envy lol I wanted to remind her the story I remembered from my bible study group days of how a God fearing king named King Saul had such envy for a sheppard boy named David who praised him and admired him..
David did so much to assist him in the palace while admiring…yet King Saul was jealous of him..envied him for being closer to God and tried to kill him lol People can sometimes envy your relationship with God.
I was shocked when I found that out as a teenager..my aunt used to explain that to us. They can have everything in life- lots of money, fancy cars, a happy marriage, a family, an education, talent- and yet STILL envy others…even envy those that are inspired by them. Don’t be blinded.
Remain faithful to doing good on earth and doing the right thing. Your light will shine to God as long as you are focused and balanced with self.
This fall weather with the warm sun gleaming on my skin made me hop in the Camaro today with the windows down. I grabbed my Chihuahua/Bull dog and we went for a hike along the lake. What made our hike so enjoyable and easy was this leggings set by Fashion Niva called Don’t Get This Twisted. When I saw it on the website I had to add it to my virtual shopping cart. I like that it can be worn with some sneaks or heels for two totally different looks.
The top can be worn off the shoulder(s) on the shoulders or tied tighter because there is a twisted knot in the back. COOL! I thank Fashion Nova for this creative fashion idea. There are many shades this outfit comes in that you can choose from.
If you read most of the clothing titles for the Fashion Nova outfits you will see that they send amazing messages. Since this outfit is named Don’t Get It Twisted, I take that as a sign to not twist things up in life. Don’t make too many assumptions and judge others before actually getting to know them. DON’T GET IT TWISTED! Don’t become so unorganized with your life and surroundings that it becomes a big mess and is hard to untangle. DON’T GET IT TWISTED! Learn to take care of things ahead of time instead of waiting until the last minute. Procrastination definitely will twist things up. DON’T GET IT TWISTED!!
Take your dog on healthy morning walks. Don’t keep them cooped up. My boy will be 12 in 5 more months and I have been walking him daily ever since he was a pup. Judging from this photo of our morning walk, he was so happy and smiling as the autumn wind blew through his fur. 😂🐾
It’s important to give them walks; as it makes them smile and brings joy to their little hearts. I have this belief that walking adds longevity to your life. When you walk your dog, you are helping them to live longer and add more years to their life.
Let walking be your dog’s medicine from nature and their mental therapy that relieves any stress. Walking your dog is good for their bones because their bones is what keeps them moving and increases healthy blood flow. (for a long life.)
The food I feed my dog is Blue Buffalo Life Protection Formula. For some reason, he prefers their puppy brand over their adult brand. 🤷♀️🤦♀️ 😂 Hmmm 🤔 perhaps because he is a small breed. I sometimes mix the small pieces of lean chicken or cocktail beef weiners into his kibble to add more variety and flavor. The way I do this is by adding miniature sizes into his dog food. Don’t feed your dog constant table food or bones if you want them to live longer. (giving them a chicken bone will harm their intestines!)
Don’t forget to make sure they have a healthy digestion. By doing this, you can detect if his/her stool shows he is constipated or healthy. Constipated stool will appear hard, small and round while healthy stool is rich in color and looks smooth. If their stool is runny, it could be due to bacteria. I know it may seem awkward to look at your dog’s poop, but sometimes it’s needed.
Ohh one other thing, dogs can catch a stomach bug too, did you know that? When this happens, sometimes I’d rub my dog’s back and take him outdoors to get some air incase he really has to release a load lol The best thing to do is talk with your vet if you notice a sudden change in your dogs stool because it is a sign of their health and what’s going into their bodies. Reward your furbabies with dog toys and treats because it uplifts their mood. Hearing a squeeky toy and playing fetch makes them feel so much high vibration.
Stay up to date on their medications and shots!!!
🌞 MR SUN! SUN! MR GOLDEN SUN!! Keeping the curtains open in the daytime is good for your dog. Why is this? because dogs love to sit in the sun and it gives them a feel of enjoying the outside. Dogs are naturally meant for being outdoors, so keep a little bit of the outdoors with them if they are living indoors. Sunlight brightens a dogs mood. It makes them rest, relax and it also brings them energy because it is a good source of vitamin D.
Taking your dog for a ride in your vehicle with the window down really excites them too and brings them happiness. TRY IT, but be careful so they won’t jump out the window. 😂 Nothing makes me happier than seeing my dog wind surfing on the passenger’s side looking at the traffic from the window. 😂
Sometimes dogs can suffer from being anti social so arrange playdates from time to time with other dogs or just take him to the park to at least walk by other dogs. Sometimes when dogs sniff each other, it’s a gesture of them being social to each other and yes, it brings them joy. Ever notice how dogs are so excited when they see other dogs? lol
Most importantly, be sure to keep your dog groomed and make regular checkups with your vet.
As crazy as this may sound, I talk to my dog and it gives us a bond. What’s funny is that, the more I talk to him (privately lol) the more he understands the English terms 😂 seriously!!! He understands so much..
Communicating with your dog and boosting their ego, telling them they are good boys and good girls actually encouragea them to feel good and releases the dopamine hormone- (rub their heads while greeting them causes them wag their tail) TRY IT!
Don’t forget to be happy and show positivity around their dog. Did you know that they can detect low vibration from you? If I am sad or in a bad mood, my dog will notice that and stare at me for a long time. If he sees that I am not feeling up to par, he starts to feel or behave sadly too. lol He is good with comforting me which I think it sweet and healthy on my end as far as being a human. 😂 If my sweet but sometimes annoying mom 😂🤦♀️ and I have our little mother/daughter rants he will go in the other room because he doesn’t like to hear any bickering. 😂 TRUST ME! So I prefer keeping my energy positive around my dog. Mom if you are reading this, don’t be grumpy around the dog. 😂
Well, I hope these tips and gestures will be as helpful for you and your furbabies as they are for me. They are dog-mommy approved by me and I have been living by it for years with my dog, making it our lifestyle. Now go out and give your fur-baby a hug and just be thankful for them. They make our lives happy and we should do the same for them.
Ahh facebook…the book that is an open book where people don’t say things to your face. (Insert thumbs up emoji here ____ 👍) During the year 2020, I had a total wake up call of re-evaluating myself.
When I say re-evaluate, I had to sit back and observe. So over the year, I have learned what this creepy website has taught me over the years whilst I reflect. Here are the top 8 lessons I have learned in numerical order
People Put Too Much Of Their Life Out There. Yes, by all means share what you want, it’s a free country but sometimes I’ll see posts where people are giving a whole reality TV series of their life. Every rant, everything about their sex life and everything about everything. I used to be a victim of this as well, but I stopped. I stopped when I realized strangers knew more about me than people that knew me. It can be scary and sometimes dangerous.
HATERS Things that make you go hmmm. This taught me that haters will be on to you like a hawk… old enemies from high school and people who will try to throw shade in your posts or DMs lol NEXT!
DRAMA Of course, when facebook asks what’s on your mind it’s an entrance for trouble. When you share your opinions that others don’t agree with this stirs up a whole lot of chaos hence why I never go that route. Phew. Ever notice if you share some bad news you get more reactions than you do with good news? People who barely interact with you suddenly come out of nowhere. Where you been hiding? 😂
Unfriended For No Reason What’s confusing is that I have had classmates I grew up with, friends and family I thought I were cool with suddenly unfriend me. I didn’t understand why because I never post anything negative etc. I think sometimes people have to unfriend you due to jealousy and that can be sad.
Copycats I admit, I am flattered a lot but there are people that will study you just to take your ideas. Hence, I don’t tell my plans anymore.
They Won’t Hit That Like Button Or Show Support I get a lot of support on my books, blogs and business from strangers than I do from people I know, believe it or not. It’s weird, I’ll get up to 1000 story views, but under 20 likes…makes me wonder if some of the people on my page are really there because they like me or just to get details to talk about me and not to me.
Some Married Men/ Unsingle Men Stay In Your Inbox Yeah, I don’t have to explain this one, but I’m like WHY?!!! 🙅♀️
Just To Brag and Show Off….. When I found out that some people will actually use facebook to brag for an ego boost my eyes widened. I admit, sometimes I share my good news but some good news I like to keep to myself. There are people who use it just to brag for relief and validation. When it gets to that point you have to ask yourself are you depending on others for your happiness?
So there you have it. I don’t use facebook deeply for some of the things I used to. Instagram seems to make it easier with privacy, but Facebook is good for keeping up with some things and sharing the positive aspects of my life.
Use it with caution!!! It’s like the tree of good and evil 😂
Yes, crew! I have been a victim of this in my early 20s. I remember wondering why did I always attracted perverts or men that only wanted to try getting into my pants. Insert 20 something photo below. 👇
Can you believe I went on a date in the left photo dressed like that and expected to be treated like a queen? and then come back home complaining about how the guy was such a pervert or a creep? Thank goodness for wisdom and growth. Okay, I do believe in flaunting your curves and shape, but wearing a deep low cut with a mini skirt short as a shirt on a date does not scream BE MY MAN! It screams BE MY MAN FOR THE NIGHT! It screams, I’M HOT IN THE PANTS! Also even if a woman is dressed a bit risque (that’s a fancy word for extreme.) it doesn’t give a man the right to proceed in treating her with disrespect and perverted-ness.
A woman should be treated with respect and not be judged just from her appearance, but sadly the way you dress will give people the radar of what kind of person you are. I know, I hate believing that too, but it’s true. What isn’t fair that people automatically will assume your easy based off your body. 🤦♀️
Here are some photos below that will give men an example that you are looking for a long term from the get-go. You can still be sexy and classy and embrace your body without exploiting who you are.
It goes both ways, but this is referring to women that wonder why they attract men that only want to get in their pants. What’s the message you are sending? I’m not saying dress boring or un-sexy, dress how you want by all means, but if you want more respect you can combine sexiness with class by not exposing every of your ass. lol
Not being so desperate in conversations and thirsty so soon, even if you are dressed nice. When you are just getting to know someone, the early stages and first impressions counts so much for the outcome.
During my younger days I’d dress this way at times going out, but it would give the idea that I was easy when I wasn’t. I thought sexiness and a sexy body would give me a relationship and that my figure or showing skin would make the guys I want go crazier over me and fall in love with me. Man, did I have it all wrong. 🤦♀️😂 A lot of young women believe this as well, but a person does not fall in love based off your assets. lol Yes, it attracted men but they were attracted to me for the wrong reason and not for what I wanted. I knew I wanted more.
I was dressed like I wanted a fling when I didn’t. Was it because I thought my body was the way to a man’s heart? Did I lack the self love to dress with self respect when I seeked love from others? This is why they say you can’t truly receive true love if you don’t love yourself first. Sometimes women will hate hearing that and think it means boredom, but trust me, it will help you in the long run and improve your self worth.
If you are seeking love, you should let your goodies and sexual side be the surprise within. If you love to show the print of your vagina in tight pants, have cleavage as low as the south of the border and booty cheeks hanging out of shorts, go ahead. 🙅♀️ If you want someone to first get the impression that you are long-term, you are going to have to not be so openly sexually at first or dress so raw during the first few dates .
If you want to dress sexy or like an instagram baddie, it’s fun too and represents your confidence of coming out your shell, but going over the top with it will immediatly give others the impression that you are fast ( even if you aren’t.) There is classy feminine, classy sexy and sexy trashy; which one are you okay with? So if you don’t want to be judged as an easy target, add some class or else you’ll attract trash. I hope this helps.
I just finished my 2 miles and I almost wanted to stop, but I kept pushing through to get to the end. I was always told if you want something hard enough you have to put in effort and make it happen. You can’t just sit around and wait for things to happen without kicking and pushing forward.
You must learn to kick through the walls and push away the negative. This concept is applied sometimes in Karate and even with skateboarding. (All thanks to Lupe Fiasco’s hip hop hit Kick Push.) When you see karate you see the martial artists going against the oppentant he pushes him and kicks him, blocking him from trying to win his victory.
In skateboarding, the skateboarders have a technique with their foot where they push to get some good motion and kick to glide through. I find it interesting that we must use the same techniques in life, but mentally. Are you kicking and pushing through all the BS in order to win your victory? Are you gliding through?
After driving in the rain from my favorite place, Taco Bell 🌮, I smiled as I turned up the volumn knob on the radio. Prince’s song Little Red Corvette filled my ears as I imagined the icon singing with his guitar on stage. I was taken by surprise as I had a chance to actually understand the lyrics and the meaning. I mean, growing up I always assumed he was referring to a red Corvette but aha I was misled. Prince was symbolizing a fast woman being like a fast car. It dawned on me
Little red Corvette Baby you’re much too fast Little red Corvette You need a love that’s gonna last
How many of you have been a little red Corvette or felt guilty of moving fast? lol It can be hard, especially when liking someone so soon. If you are looking for love, you are going to have to slow down and take it seriously. Serious means taking things slow. (refer to lyrics listed above lol ☝️) Although sex is apart of human nature, we must know how to seperate the mind from the lower anatomy in the early stages of dating when seeking a loving relationship. Many daters were lucky to still marry the one after giving it up on the first night, but in most cases it isn’t a guarantee. You should always be careful to guard your heart. (and your health.)
Coming from a guy like Prince (who is as sexual as they come, bless his soul) he is even admitting that men want love from women who aren’t fast. Sometimes women will become easy and fast when they think it’s a way to get a man to love them fast (because men are stereotyped as sex hungry) but actually the anticipation and sticking to your standards is what keeps them interested. (It makes you a challenge and challenges are more exciting and adventurous like a real little red corvette.)
It’s Sunday Funday so you know what that means. I prefer sipping from my selection of tea in the sun on Sundays. This afternoon’s decision of blueberry tea led me to soak in some sun at our local bakery- BAKER’S SWEETS ( It’S too bad they weren’t open because I could really use one of their blueberry muffins!! BUMMER! 😖) Although I wasn’t blue, I was in the mood to wear my beautiful blue outfit from It’s Fashion Metro.
This blue top accentuates the waistline with 5 middle down buttons. What I love about it the most is the fluffy vest-like collar. The blue and white strips immediatly gives me sailor vibes.
Luckily the blue pants were stretchy material with the length of a capri wear. I accesorized with matching white beaded earrings and a necklace that dangled on my chest. I absoloutly felt my most confident in this outfit. Looking BLUE never felt so good!!!
A lot of people ask why I never curse (cuss)..even when I was working at Blue Cross Blue Sheild they’d ask me. lol I’m okay if my friends do it because it’s funny and we crack up. I’ll cuss to myself, but I never cuss around people and I don’t cuss on my posts. lol I may get by with “damn” or “hell” from time to time 😂 but I don’t use the “S” word or the “F” word or the “B” word. I let the characters in my books use them. 😂😂😂 You may say not cussing is just as dry as a person who doesn’t have a fun drink on the weekend or a cheat meal during a diet (I am a sinner to those two pleasures. I surrender!!! lol) Although I dressed like a boy growing up, (so mama put me in a lot of beauty pageants to get me more girly lol) I was always raised that cussing and being loud is not feminine and is a masculine trait..so I don’t really do it.
If my friends do it, I laugh and I’m fine with it 😂 very normal and I don’t judge. I was told a curse is a curse lol
Here is a secret, I always found that men pursued me a lot when I never cussed or acted loud too. In high school and college, other girls did that and I’d feel left out because I didn’t know how to cuss in a cool way. When I did, they’d laugh at me because of how I talked lol. My mama always made sure we came across as respectful and it showed from home training. My sister and I were very quiet girls. 🙂 and my niece is the same too….except I’d get in fist fights with boys in elementary, jr high and high school 😂😂😂 My mama always said to never hit anyone until they hit me first. Yes, that is the only time I’d come out of my sweet charm. (I just didn’t cuss!) 😂😂😂