Don’t Get This Twisted!!

This fall weather with the warm sun gleaming on my skin made me hop in the Camaro today with the windows down. I grabbed my Chihuahua/Bull dog and we went for a hike along the lake. What made our hike so enjoyable and easy was this leggings set by Fashion Niva called Don’t Get This Twisted. When I saw it on the website I had to add it to my virtual shopping cart. I like that it can be worn with some sneaks or heels for two totally different looks.

ReNita is wearing this comfortable
Don’t Get This Twisted Pants Set
by Fashion Nova

The top can be worn off the shoulder(s) on the shoulders or tied tighter because there is a twisted knot in the back. COOL! I thank Fashion Nova for this creative fashion idea. There are many shades this outfit comes in that you can choose from.

If you read most of the clothing titles for the Fashion Nova outfits you will see that they send amazing messages. Since this outfit is named Don’t Get It Twisted, I take that as a sign to not twist things up in life. Don’t make too many assumptions and judge others before actually getting to know them. DON’T GET IT TWISTED! Don’t become so unorganized with your life and surroundings that it becomes a big mess and is hard to untangle. DON’T GET IT TWISTED! Learn to take care of things ahead of time instead of waiting until the last minute. Procrastination definitely will twist things up. DON’T GET IT TWISTED!!

-ReNita XOXO ๐Ÿ’Ÿ๐Ÿ’‹

Don’t Get This Twisted Pants Set by Fashion Novs

Photos by Fashion Nova. http://www.fashionnova.com

Secrets To Your Dogs Happiness

Take your dog on healthy morning walks. Don’t keep them cooped up. My boy will be 12 in 5 more months and I have been walking him daily ever since he was a pup. Judging from this photo of our morning walk, he was so happy and smiling as the autumn wind blew through his fur. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿพ

It’s important to give them walks; as it makes them smile and brings joy to their little hearts. I have this belief that walking adds longevity to your life. When you walk your dog, you are helping them to live longer and add more years to their life.

Let walking be your dog’s medicine from nature and their mental therapy that relieves any stress. Walking your dog is good for their bones because their bones is what keeps them moving and increases healthy blood flow. (for a long life.)

The food I feed my dog is Blue Buffalo Life Protection Formula. For some reason, he prefers their puppy brand over their adult brand. ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ ๐Ÿ˜‚ Hmmm ๐Ÿค” perhaps because he is a small breed. I sometimes mix the small pieces of lean chicken or cocktail beef weiners into his kibble to add more variety and flavor. The way I do this is by adding miniature sizes into his dog food. Don’t feed your dog constant table food or bones if you want them to live longer. (giving them a chicken bone will harm their intestines!)

Don’t forget to make sure they have a healthy digestion. By doing this, you can detect if his/her stool shows he is constipated or healthy. Constipated stool will appear hard, small and roundย  while healthy stool is rich in color and looks smooth. If their stool is runny, it could be due to bacteria. I know it may seem awkward to look at your dog’s poop, but sometimes it’s needed.

Ohh one other thing, dogs can catch a stomach bug too, did you know that? When this happens, sometimes I’d rub my dog’s back and take him outdoors to get some air incase he really has to release a load lol The best thing to do is talk with your vet if you notice a sudden change in your dogs stool because it is a sign of their health and what’s going into their bodies.
Reward your furbabies with dog toys and treats because it uplifts their mood. Hearing a squeeky toy and playing fetch makes them feel so much high vibration.

Stay up to date on their medications and shots!!!

๐ŸŒž MR SUN! SUN! MR GOLDEN SUN!! Keeping the curtains open in the daytime is good for your dog. Why is this? because dogs love to sit in the sun and it gives them a feel of enjoying the outside. Dogs are naturally meant for being outdoors, so keep a little bit of the outdoors with them if they are living indoors.  Sunlight brightens a dogs mood. It makes them rest, relax and it also brings them energy because it is a good source of vitamin D. 

Taking your dog for a ride in your vehicle with the window down really excites them too and brings them happiness. TRY IT, but be careful so they won’t jump out the window. ๐Ÿ˜‚ Nothing makes me happier than seeing my dog wind surfing on the passenger’s side looking at the traffic from the window. ๐Ÿ˜‚

Sometimes dogs can suffer from being anti social so arrange playdates from time to time with other dogs or just take him to the park to at least walk by other dogs. Sometimes when dogs sniff each other, it’s a gesture of them being social to each other and yes, it brings them joy. Ever notice how dogs are so excited when they see other dogs? lol

Most importantly, be sure to keep your dog groomed and make regular checkups with your vet.

As crazy as this may sound, I talk to my dog and it gives us a bond. What’s funny is that, the more I talk to him (privately lol) the more he understands the English terms ๐Ÿ˜‚ seriously!!! He understands so much..

Communicating with your dog and boosting their ego, telling them they are good boys and good girls actually encouragea them to feel good and releases the dopamine hormone-  (rub their heads while greeting them causes them wag their tail) TRY IT!

Don’t forget to be happy and show positivity around their dog. Did you know that they can detect low vibration from you? If I am sad or in a bad mood, my dog will notice that and stare at me for a long time. If he sees that I am not feeling up to par, he starts to feel or behave sadly too. lol He is good with comforting me which I think it sweet and healthy on my end as far as being a human. ๐Ÿ˜‚ If my sweet but sometimes annoying mom ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ and I have our little mother/daughter rants he will go in the other room because he doesn’t like to hear any bickering. ๐Ÿ˜‚ TRUST ME! So I prefer keeping my energy positive around my dog. Mom if you are reading this, don’t be grumpy around the dog. ๐Ÿ˜‚

Well, I hope these tips and gestures will be as helpful for you and your furbabies as they are for me. They are dog-mommy approved by me and I have been living by it for years with my dog, making it our lifestyle. Now go out and give your fur-baby a hug and just be thankful for them. They make our lives happy and we should do the same for them.

Maybe She Was An Angel…

Have you ever had a friendly connection with certain people because of their energy and their vibe? They’re the kind of people that make you say, to them, “I love your energy!” because it’s what they pass along and spread to you. The next thing you know, you are in a good feeling because of them. These are the kind of people/friends you need in your life to have a positive life. That kind of experience happened to me last year.

Last summer, I would always see this elderly lady at the park getting in her miles a day. She’d always carry a stick with her and walk for what seemed like hours. She’d walk by me and smile a gentle smile everytime. One morning my car wouldn’t start. As I was sitting in the car she came up to me and asked if I needed help. I didn’t know the reason why my car wouldn’t start but she popped open my hood and told me my battery had died and that she would jump it for me. Relieved and embarassed at the same time, I thanked her. She went on to tell me the story of how she learned things from her husband and the good ole days. Moments later, a few minutes of chatting with her became an hour of laughing in conversation in the parking lot.

She told me her name was Lily and that she walks from 8am until 10am almost every morning. She told me she was in her seventies and that walking helped with her blood pressure and diabeties. I told her that my mom had the same issue and she said, “Yes, well she definitely needs to start walking.”

Later, I ended up getting my mom to walk with me and she started to feel brand new and was glad I talked to her into it. Had it not been for Mrs. Lily my mom wouldn’t have gotten the courage with me to walk. (I had been asking her for years to go on walks with me lol)

A new year came and I had gotten a new car. I would continue to go to the park and inhale the fresh air over the cascading lake, but my sweet Mrs. Lily was no where to be found. I would say a silent prayer that she was okay and that I’d meet her again one day. One evening as I was walking, I was hoping I’d walk by her. (I was losing hope that I ever would see her again.) Somehow, I noticed a lady that looked like Mrs. Lily, but she was thinner and had a grey afro. She smiled at me with that familiar gentle smile and I gasped saying, “Mrs. Lily?! Is that you?” ๐Ÿ˜Š I was so happy to see my friend again and she was happy to see me too. I explained to her how I always hoped to see her again and she told me she started coming to walk at 6am with a few friends. We caught up for a few minutes, but I really wished it was longer. We said our see you laters and went our own way…hoping to have another friendly encounter with each other again. That was the last time I saw her and I’ll never forget her. I wish I had asked for a way to stay connected with her, but I didn’t want to seem creepy lol

I would question if Mrs Lily were an angel because I never ran into her anymore since then. She had this grey hair like white snow and had that grandmotherly feeling. Sometimes just talking to her instantly made me vibrate high and she was filled with high vibrational energy. Well, angels are known to vibrate high. Unfortunatly you never run into these people again and sometimes you do.

Why is that?

No one knows.

Maybe she was an angel. ๐Ÿ˜‡

I’m A Flower Still Waiting To Be Given Flowers…

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๐Ÿ’Okay so I can imagine all the weird facial expressions that people would give me when I told them Iโ€™ve never received flowers from a man before. Iโ€™ve had people tell me, โ€œYeah right. You lying!โ€ but honestly Iโ€™m not. sips tea โ˜•๐Ÿ˜‚ By the way, tulips are my favorite flowers. ๐Ÿ˜Š So I guess Iโ€™m just a bit old fashioned, huh? I love nice things, but the little gestures means so much. Receiving a text that says โ€œGood morning baby, good morning queen.โ€ย  is the closest thing to receiving flowers sometimes.

The feeling of importance and being on someoneโ€™s thoughts is just like virtually handing me flowers. I get all giggly and roll around in bed whenever I’d receive a morning text. I can only imagine what it will be like when I am gifted flowers ๐Ÿ˜‚. Sigh. When dating, I never ask a man because I wait to see if he will so I am waiting ๐Ÿ˜‚ (or hinting. Lol)

Not sure if men still think flowers are a sweet gesture because times have changed. I love flowers because I enjoy gardening and growing flowers. Flowers remind me of a beautiful woman thatโ€™s rare to find. They should be cared for and nurtured, theyโ€™re delicate and they attract bees and butterflies (just like women attract men and are pursued.)

The sight and smell of flowers always uplifts my mood and they are so naturally beautiful within and out. Itโ€™s amazing how something created from God can grow from the earth and just be a simple expression to save a relationship at times. Not many women care about flowers as much as I do, Iโ€™m told. I was told that some men donโ€™t believe in giving flowers anymore because they think all women want material things.ย 

ย What I am saying is, while I don’t mind being spoiled, a bouquet of flowers makes me happy. ๐Ÿ˜Š I know I could have just asked guys and had them given to me, but I donโ€™t want to to ask for special moments like that. I want whom ever Iโ€™m with to just surprise me and catch me off guard. I love surprises!! ๐Ÿ˜Š I used to feel like a misfit because so many girls and women have already experienced that moment and here I am at age 34 still awaiting like a 15 year old at a sleepover ; giggling about what her first kiss will be like lol

The good thing about it is that who ever gives me my flowers will be the first, making him someone to stand out than anyone from my past. ๐Ÿ˜Š

Iโ€™ve had guys tell me they would have given me flowers but it was usually the ones I wasnโ€™t interested in lol (topsy turvy, huh?) lol My best friend told me that his girlfriend is 35 and that he was the first to give her flowers. Everyone has their season or flower season. Everyone has their once in a life time moment that happens on itโ€™s own without force.

I remember thinking, how is it that they call me Iโ€™m beautiful but I havenโ€™t received flowers yet? I’d be thinking, ‘Is there something wrong with me?’ Hahaha but no, there is nothing wrong with me and I donโ€™t want any other woman to feel that way either. I see it as God holding off on that moment so the man meant for me will show off. God saves things that are meant to be special for you for the special person and at the special time. Just as when you have to wait until Christmas to open your amazing gifts, it will feel more special. I have a bucket list of things I am still waiting to do that I havenโ€™t experienced yet with a man and I know itโ€™s a sign from God that those moments will be shared with the one I may marry …making it the best!!!!๐Ÿ˜‰

So raise your glasses and make a toast ๐Ÿฅ‚ for knowing that your inexperience is a gift awaiting to be unwrapped. ..

For the moment, see yourself as a flower awaiting to be sniffed by a handsome and rare bee. ๐ŸŒบ๐Ÿ

To Be Envied Or Inspire..

To be envied or to inspire??..that is the question. I had a girl told me she used to be jealous of me and I was a bit surprised.. Honestly I’d rather inspire people than to be envied. If people are envious then you have no friends and I only have a few…. always wanted a big group of positive girlfriends. I feel if we inspire others then there will be no room for envy because people will be motivated to become their best self. Your energy will light theirs up just from yours being bright.ย  Ever been around certain people that just made you feel an energy boost just from being around them? That’s what you should feel and who you should be around.

If not, be the one to help them feel positive by first working on yourself and becoming your greatest version.

When I’d find out someone felt that way I’d be like “There is no need to be if you knew all the sad things I overcame.” I am thankful I can use that to motivate others. God kept me and I am still here.ย  Be thankful. Smile. Love. Focus on what’s best for you in this life you have. ๐Ÿ™ƒ๐ŸŒž Life is too short. Great memories last longer. Make them.

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It’s The Most WONDERFUL Time Of The Year..(or busiest?)

How many more gifts do I have to wrap? After surviving a busy evening of traffic in the pouring rain, my head feels as if someone smashed it with a hammer. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ (Oh, I am so dramatic. Perhaps it’s the author in me.)

Yoooo!!! Do not get me started on how jam packed Wal Mart was. Ya girl will not go there again in pouring rain in busy traffic during the holidays. ๐Ÿ˜‚

I’ll take a break and finish up my business stuff. The kids (niece and nephew) are obsessed with watching Home Alone 1 and 2 since yesterday and last night. I have seen Kevin order cheese pizza pranking the pizza guy, put super glue on the burglars head and got lost in New York. Lol

My 6 year old nephew has been running into the sofa pillows like a football player whilst singing Frosty the Snowman.

My mother is fussing in the kitchen at her cakes she is baking because she wants them to be perfect.

Oh, and my 14 yr old niece now has a ton of curious questions about Santa Clause.. yes it is the most WONDERFUL time of the year ๐Ÿ˜‚

I challenge you all to enjoy time with family and friends because this is the moment to reflect on being thankful. So besides my ranting of a busy headache, I am so excited to have my family.

I am overjoyed to see the kids into the Christmas spirit; this makes it the most wonderful time of the year!!!

Ladies, Start Your Self Love Journey: THIS IS MY STORY..THE GOOD AND THE BAD OF HOW I GOT TO WHERE I AM โค

Women always ask me how do I manage self love and confidence. Girl, it took me some years! ๐Ÿ™‚ Lol I was NEVER EVER as confident as I am today. I grew up as a energetic child always having fun and competing in pageants, school plays and played softball. I was a creative child who always received support from my family so that is where the root of my confidence started. This is why it’s important to support and encourage children so they can grow up always having a passion to acheive.

In junior high school, I would always get bullied and it would lower some of my confidence. This is why it’s important to be around positive or friendly people.

My REAL self love journey started in 2012 after surviving a 2005 sexual assault incident while in college; which would lead to self abuse in my early 20s. Although I would accomplish so many great things, it would steal so much of the confidence I grew up with. I would think it was impossiable to get it all back. So this is what I did. It took me 7 full years to recover from mental pain and then another 7 years to re build my self love. It took me 14 years to get to where I am today. :O

I am thankful that I am also able to inspire other women and preach about the importance of loving yourself and knowing yourself.ย  Just bc you say someone is beautiful and you might be hating on them, you don’t know their story. lol You don’t know what they went through. I believe some of the greatest people are the ones that survived the storms and did amazing things afterwards. Never let your trials defeat you. I challenge you to focus on repairing from your pain and then start a self love journey. โค Not everyone is perfect. Trust ๐Ÿ’ฏ If I can do it, you can do it.
-ReNita XOXO ๐Ÿ’‹