So I have decided to go on an all girls trip/spa retreat in Miami with some ladies I met from Facebook groups for women in need of making other female friends. That sounds desperate, no? but I love this group and I really bond and click with these other girls. I’ve always wanted to go on a girls trip, but no chics have asked to travel with me. I sure don’t want to travel alone when I go on my getaway trips for my regular me-time. As you have noticed, I don’t really have as many close girlfriends. 😦 lol The only one I am close to is married and I know she has other responsibilities and such, which I humbly respect. (love her..) The other few close friends I have are 2 guys and how would I be able to enjoy doing girly things with them? lol.
I’ve always wanted to have a group of girlfriends like on The Golden Girls or Waiting Exhale, where we can laugh and enjoy the physical view of life on earth…TOGETHER. I want to be on Miami beach taking selfies with a group of girlfriends and making memories. 🙂 Some women have asked to do things with me were women that had a history of being mean/petty towards or just wanted to know my information on things…so I wouldn’t want any awkward feelings. Sometimes finding your tribe is hard though. It would just be nice to have a group that doesn’t act as if I did something wrong or serve me with attitude for no reason or use me. I know these new friends and I will hit it off when we explore Miami together. I CAN’T WAIT! I really am looking forward to this trip because it is definitely needed. I can hear the sound of the beach music down the street and I can smell the coconut drinks at the tiki bar. We’ll have to shop at the mall (Dolphin Mall) and the boutiques in the plaza as we laugh along our way. CAN’T WAIT! CAN’T WAIT!
Have you ever had a friendly connection with certain people because of their energy and their vibe? They’re the kind of people that make you say, to them, “I love your energy!” because it’s what they pass along and spread to you. The next thing you know, you are in a good feeling because of them. These are the kind of people/friends you need in your life to have a positive life. That kind of experience happened to me last year.
Last summer, I would always see this elderly lady at the park getting in her miles a day. She’d always carry a stick with her and walk for what seemed like hours. She’d walk by me and smile a gentle smile everytime. One morning my car wouldn’t start. As I was sitting in the car she came up to me and asked if I needed help. I didn’t know the reason why my car wouldn’t start but she popped open my hood and told me my battery had died and that she would jump it for me. Relieved and embarassed at the same time, I thanked her. She went on to tell me the story of how she learned things from her husband and the good ole days. Moments later, a few minutes of chatting with her became an hour of laughing in conversation in the parking lot.
She told me her name was Lily and that she walks from 8am until 10am almost every morning. She told me she was in her seventies and that walking helped with her blood pressure and diabeties. I told her that my mom had the same issue and she said, “Yes, well she definitely needs to start walking.”
Later, I ended up getting my mom to walk with me and she started to feel brand new and was glad I talked to her into it. Had it not been for Mrs. Lily my mom wouldn’t have gotten the courage with me to walk. (I had been asking her for years to go on walks with me lol)
A new year came and I had gotten a new car. I would continue to go to the park and inhale the fresh air over the cascading lake, but my sweet Mrs. Lily was no where to be found. I would say a silent prayer that she was okay and that I’d meet her again one day. One evening as I was walking, I was hoping I’d walk by her. (I was losing hope that I ever would see her again.) Somehow, I noticed a lady that looked like Mrs. Lily, but she was thinner and had a grey afro. She smiled at me with that familiar gentle smile and I gasped saying, “Mrs. Lily?! Is that you?” 😊 I was so happy to see my friend again and she was happy to see me too. I explained to her how I always hoped to see her again and she told me she started coming to walk at 6am with a few friends. We caught up for a few minutes, but I really wished it was longer. We said our see you laters and went our own way…hoping to have another friendly encounter with each other again. That was the last time I saw her and I’ll never forget her. I wish I had asked for a way to stay connected with her, but I didn’t want to seem creepy lol
I would question if Mrs Lily were an angel because I never ran into her anymore since then. She had this grey hair like white snow and had that grandmotherly feeling. Sometimes just talking to her instantly made me vibrate high and she was filled with high vibrational energy. Well, angels are known to vibrate high. Unfortunatly you never run into these people again and sometimes you do.
I usually start my mornings with yoga and it helps to keep me looking forward to positive outlooks. It has been so long since I’ve encountered anything with negative people that I forgot. I usually have a brain that keeps me in my own little world. Well, I encountered two strangers so far this year who seemed very rude in professional business. You would think professionals would have more respect, but this is just a wake up call. Luckily, I am a strong person that I overlook their funky attitudes. So the other day as I was paying my internet bill, I didn’t have my bill on hand. I asked to pay by just giving my name (as usual.)
There was a new cashier at the drive-thru window. Instead of her kindly smiling and saying, ‘Sure we can look you up that way.” the cashier had a grumpy and stern look on her cold pale face. (Hence the eye roll she gave me and the exaggerated sigh.) “We would like for you to have your bill with you.” she snapped. I smiled (as usual) and explained to her that I usually pay by just giving my name and address. Although she spoke over me and didn’t tell me, “Thank you have a nice day.” I did what I came to do, paid my bill and I drove off with a smile.
As I was driving on the highway, I realized how rude she seemed and how would I never use customer service with that behavior. She was new so I decided to not take it out on her lol She probably was having a rough day. We never know what these rude type of people are going through already. This is why we should always remember that when we come across people like that. It is important to be nice to people and that is something I learned as a child. Sadly, not many people see things that way and this is why so much goes on the world today. Perhaps I am just a hippie. lol
Another encounter happened this morning where I came across someone’s negative mood. haha! There was a nice house I saw for rent and I know that my mom was interested in searching for another place with a bigger yard. Well she told me to call this house she saw and I called for her. An elderly man answered the phone with an attitude. I repeated what he said and he shouted into the phone. “THAT’S NOT WHAT I SAID!” he shouted, making me feel like a child in a mean teacher’s classroom.😂 I raised an eyebrow. I asked him a question and he told me he couldn’t understand what I said because I talked too fast and that’s he’s old. lol He was rude so I hung up on him. (which was rude as well lol)
I asked the good lord to forgive me for hanging up on the old man lol. I wasn’t about to let the negative actions of other people control my actions for the day. This happens so much in this world, especially early in the mornings.
Sometimes the way other people come across to you can effect your day (if you aren’t strong enough.) My feelings were about 1% hurt, but I managed to suck it up right after and continued on with my day. A voice spoke to me saying, never get upset at other people for their actions. Sometimes these people are grumpy because they are going through hard times; after all, they were strangers.
True. The cashier probably was having a stressful life at home (perhaps a cheating husband etc) or the old man probably was a grumpy for dealing with the pains of aging. (He did mention that he was hard of hearing lol)
As I went in Wal-Mart to get a bag of sugar for the pie my mom planned to bake, a sweet woman walked by with a smile and spoke to me. I’m usually friendly with people I don’t know so this time someone actually spoke to me out of kindness. I was wondering if I knew her personally, but I didn’t.
She was just being a friendly stranger who told me hello with a bright smile. I returned the smile and the acknowledgment to her as well. A simple act of kindness exchanged with a stranger had lightened up my mood, making me remember that not everyone is rude. (There are still some good people here. )
I love making friends with women when I travel. I always give a compliment and we’ll hit it off and then I’ll be like, why didn’t I ask for her facebook ? Lol (then I don’t see them anymore.) Sometimes it can be hard to find friends with some women, especially when society makes them think we need to compete. No offense or not to sound cocky, but if you are an attractive female it makes it even hard. If you have a diverse personality it can be hard too. I am a little of both. I am very careful and extra nice when I try to make friends.
Some women make it seem like because I like to get dolled up, that it means I must think I’m better. Nah. I am not that way at all, but we can both feel like we are magical. 😊 We should feel like a powerful group when we get together instead.
We can encourage each other with inspiration and motivation to make each other better. I am not interested in that competition or envy stuff. I am never the envious or competitive type, but I would find it hard to fit in. You can’t be friends if you seek or worry on that. I don’t want that at all.
Honestly, I just want to find my chic tribe. I want a bond with like minded women like myself. No drama. No competition. Just a good time. Good laughs and discussing the topic of men over good drinks. 🍸🍸😂
If you have a man problem, I want our group of friends to come over so you won’t be up crying all night. (with a gallon of Ben & Jerry’s ice cream. 😂)
To say I am popular on social media, I only have 2 close friends in reality that I talk to. One is married with a family of her own and one lives with his girlfriend in Miami. The married friend is like a sister to me and I wish I could make her into a clone because we have been best friends since college. (but she lives an hour and a half away in Charleston. 😫 )
I have always felt more more like myself talking to the same energy as hers or with guy friends (or feminine gay men lol) So I’m kind of just a loner waiting on building my clique. 😂 I am into so many different things so I hope others accept that and click with my diverse side. Lol
I know finding more friends is an insecurity I must work on. This is one of my goals for 2020; to find some real life friends that click with me. It can seem hard, but I am still looking to find my girls. I want some friends that love to go to the gym, do 5ks, have a wine and painting girls night out, go see movies, comedy shows. I know they exist lol