Don’t Get This Twisted!!

This fall weather with the warm sun gleaming on my skin made me hop in the Camaro today with the windows down. I grabbed my Chihuahua/Bull dog and we went for a hike along the lake. What made our hike so enjoyable and easy was this leggings set by Fashion Niva called Don’t Get This Twisted. When I saw it on the website I had to add it to my virtual shopping cart. I like that it can be worn with some sneaks or heels for two totally different looks.

ReNita is wearing this comfortable
Don’t Get This Twisted Pants Set
by Fashion Nova

The top can be worn off the shoulder(s) on the shoulders or tied tighter because there is a twisted knot in the back. COOL! I thank Fashion Nova for this creative fashion idea. There are many shades this outfit comes in that you can choose from.

If you read most of the clothing titles for the Fashion Nova outfits you will see that they send amazing messages. Since this outfit is named Don’t Get It Twisted, I take that as a sign to not twist things up in life. Don’t make too many assumptions and judge others before actually getting to know them. DON’T GET IT TWISTED! Don’t become so unorganized with your life and surroundings that it becomes a big mess and is hard to untangle. DON’T GET IT TWISTED! Learn to take care of things ahead of time instead of waiting until the last minute. Procrastination definitely will twist things up. DON’T GET IT TWISTED!!

-ReNita XOXO 💟💋

Don’t Get This Twisted Pants Set by Fashion Novs

Photos by Fashion Nova. http://www.fashionnova.com

Cheetah/Leopard Girl Vibes

So I have a secret..lean in closer and I’ll tell you.. 🤫

a little closer…….. 😊

ReNita is sporting the
SHOW THEM YOUR SPOTS Leggings
by Fashion Nova

I HAVE AN OBSESSION WITH LEOPARD CHEETAH PRINTS!!!! What could welcome the season of autumn than the prints of a cheetah? When I saw these were on sale from Fashion Nova, I immediatly made my purchase online. I have always wanted to own a pair of cheetah print leggings and here they are snugging tightly to my glorious curves. The brown and black print naturally fits with the autumn weather and the bronzeness of my complexion.

The leggings don’t feel thin, the fabric is actually warm ad stretchy giving me a comfortable sensation. I have another confession, I wore these leggings two days in a row because they are so comfortable. They can also be worn in a dressy style with a brown or black top. I worked out in them and they make working out easy because of the material.

Get your pair of cheetah print leggings here, your legs and your booty won’t be sorry. 😚 https://bit.ly/34tlAEs

Renita XOXO 💋

How To Embrace Your Chocolate, Sistah.

I just got an email from one of my blog readers telling me sometimes she doesn’t feel  confident with her dark complexion. She’s so very beautiful both inside and out and maybe 19 years old… so I am trying to figure out why would she be so concerned.  Beauty on the inside brings out beauty on the outside however. I am always humbled when I get emails from my readers that I inspire, but if you have low confidence because of your skin, you are going to have to work on your inner confidence FIRST and foremost. This mentality is forced down from the slave masters and from the media, sadly. Please don’t allow this to burden you from those who are still in mental slavery. They’re the losers! To judge someone for their complexion is insane- rather lightskin or darkskin.

I remember seeing this African model on MTV many years ago and she had a short bald hair cut. Many black people (our own people) would say she was unattractive while the other races praised her. However, when she walked the runway and spoke with confidence she appeared and seemed beautiful because she was beautiful from within. If she had any flaws, her inner beauty made her look super beautiful.

One thing I love to do is learn from the African models on Instagram and whenever I am traveling.. because they have amazing confidence and they embrace their feminism. When I’d travel to big cities, these ladies were full of confidence and always loved to dress up.

I admit, I am a stalker of Sedanase, Ghanan and Ethiopian models and I love being inspired by other women instead of being envious. LEARN AND EMBRACE! Most importanty, if you really want your dark skinned to be noticed and feel confident, the secret is to wear bright cool or bright warm colors. Another tip is to add a hint of cocoa butter oil to the skin or cheeks. This adds a certain glow to the skin. For some reason that is like seeing magic. Trust me! 

If I were darker, I’d probably wear bright colors all the time just because of how it draws attention to chocolate skin. Luckily, you don’t have to really worry about acne scars or wrinkles lol You just need to love being you and keep looking good and feeling confident. Hope this helps..
-ReNita XOXO 💕💋

Dress With Class If You Don’t Want To Attract Trash

Yes, crew! I have been a victim of this in my early 20s. I remember wondering why did I always attracted perverts or men that only wanted to try getting into my pants. Insert 20 something photo below. 👇

Can you believe I went on a date in the left photo dressed like that and expected to be treated like a queen? and then come back home complaining about how the guy was such a pervert or a creep? Thank goodness for wisdom and growth. Okay, I do believe in flaunting your curves and shape, but wearing a deep low cut with a mini skirt short as a shirt on a date does not scream BE MY MAN! It screams BE MY MAN FOR THE NIGHT! It screams, I’M HOT IN THE PANTS! Also even if a woman is dressed a bit risque (that’s a fancy word for extreme.) it doesn’t give a man the right to proceed in treating her with disrespect and perverted-ness.

A woman should be treated with respect and not be judged just from her appearance, but sadly the way you dress will give people the radar of what kind of person you are. I know, I hate believing that too, but it’s true. What isn’t fair that people automatically will assume your easy based off your body. 🤦‍♀️

Here are some photos below that will give men an example that you are looking for a long term from the get-go. You can still be sexy and classy and embrace your body without exploiting who you are.

It goes both ways, but this is referring to women that wonder why they attract men that only want to get in their pants. What’s the message you are sending? I’m not saying dress boring or un-sexy, dress how you want by all means, but if you want more respect you can combine sexiness with class by not exposing every of your ass. lol

Not being so desperate in conversations and thirsty so soon, even if you are dressed nice. When you are just getting to know someone, the early stages and first impressions counts so much for the outcome.

During my younger days I’d dress this way at times going out, but it would give the idea that I was easy when I wasn’t. I thought sexiness and a sexy body would give me a relationship and that my figure or showing skin would make the guys I want go crazier over me and fall in love with me. Man, did I have it all wrong. 🤦‍♀️😂 A lot of young women believe this as well, but a person does not fall in love based off your assets. lol Yes, it attracted men but they were attracted to me for the wrong reason and not for what I wanted. I knew I wanted more.

I was dressed like I wanted a fling when I didn’t. Was it because I thought my body was the way to a man’s heart? Did I lack the self love to dress with self respect when I seeked love from others? This is why they say you can’t truly receive true love if you don’t love yourself first. Sometimes women will hate hearing that and think it means boredom, but trust me, it will help you in the long run and improve your self worth.

If you are seeking love, you should let your goodies and sexual side be the surprise within. If you love to show the print of your vagina in tight pants, have cleavage as low as the south of the border and booty cheeks hanging out of shorts, go ahead. 🙅‍♀️ If you want someone to first get the impression that you are long-term, you are going to have to not be so openly sexually at first or dress so raw during the first few dates .

If you want to dress sexy or like an instagram baddie, it’s fun too and represents your confidence of coming out your shell, but going over the top with it will immediatly give others the impression that you are fast ( even if you aren’t.) There is classy feminine, classy sexy and sexy trashy; which one are you okay with? So if you don’t want to be judged as an easy target, add some class or else you’ll attract trash. I hope this helps.

Catepillars and Butterflies.

Here is a photo of me in 7th grade before I physically transformed and blossomed into a butterfly 🐛🦋 I also realized that people who were ugly on the inside can transform to inner beauty.

Remember when some of you all would call me all those rude names in the 7th grade and made fun of my weave ponytail? lol I admit, I was very much a tomboy and didn’t care about being pretty until my senior year of high school. I was just enjoying being a kid and wasn’t at my blossoming stage yet. So many girls my age moved so fast and I didn’t fit in. Many times I’d eat my lunch in the cafeteria bathroom so the bullies wouldn’t embarass me. 

At this age, my bullies didn’t know of other things I had going on in my life. Junior high was a living hell. Imagine getting bullied everyday about your hairstyles as soon as you got on the school bus and then being bullied in school by both girls and boys..then riding the school bus home to get bullied again. 🤦‍♀️ Sometimes when I’d go home, my dad argued so much if my grades were low or if I had gained weight. Just like the kids at school didn’t know I had things going on at home, my dad didn’t know I had things going at school.

My confidence had dropped low at the time because of people; but no matter what, I always remained sweet until I pushed to the limit lol  I find it funny, the same people that did me so wrong are asking for my advice today and my dad finally seems impressed with things I work hard for. I’m happy about that because it shows that people can change..The best advice I can give you is to treat others with kindness. I have this belief that being kind to other people and having a nice personality makes you all the more beautiful. Don’t be negative or dramatic in life.  Blessings will soon follow once you are kind to others. Don’t waste time awaiting revenge. Their karma sometimes will allow them to become better people. Working on yourself mentally and physically is the greatest transformation of all.. To transform into a butterfly, you must use this time to work on you in those areas. To win and to get there is to not focus on them showing their ugly side, they haven’t transformed yet either. Keep smiling. Keep moving.

-ReNita XOXO 💕

Simply Summer Hippie

ReNita is wearing the Astria dress from Haute Swimwear….. Straw hat is from Lime Lush Boutique 🥝

So when I tell you I simply love this dress I SIMPLY love this dress! Not only is it a dress, but it’s a swim suit cover up. There are times when I go to the beach and don’t want to have all the attention drawn to my curvaceous assets so this comes in handy a great deal.

I was sent this sexy little number from a company called Haute Swim Wear. Their clothing brand has swim suits, bikinis and cover ups so go check them out. I love the feel of this dress. It’s light weight and a bit see through so be sure to wear a slip underneath if you are wearing it as a dress and wear your bikini or bathing suit under if wearing it as a cover up at the beach or pool.

The feel is sheer and it has a v- neck plunging neckline with the stretchy material at the waist. (you know, the material that shows off those curves and gives you that shape.) The BEST thing about this dress is that one size fits most!

I had looked online for what seemed like hours for the perfect hat to rock with this dress so the universe showed me a company called Lime Lush. I quickly made my purchase and once it arrived, I paired the hat with the dress and realized the shaded colors screamed of lemonade on the front porch in the afternoon.

👗Astria dress by Haute Swimwear https://haute-swimwear.com/products/astria-dress-1

(use my discount: RENITA15 for Haute Swimwear)

👒Straw brim hat by Lime Lush https://www.limelush.com/natural-wide-brim-straw-hat-with-leopard-ribbon-and-bow/

Sayin Yes To The Bianca Dress From Sincere Sally Boutique!

As women, we all want to feel feminine and fresh; nothing tops it off than a simple breezy dress. When Sincere Sally Boutique sent me this dress, my heart dropped as I opened the packaging. I rushed to put it on and instantly imagined myself showing it off in public. The cool fabric against my skin made me thought of a windy day at the park with some ice cream. The pink color of the dress gave a hint of summer and spring time; this is great to wear during those seasons. The warm pink color could also get by in autumn too, but since it has a flower pattern I would let it stay in the categories of summer and spring.

The sandals to wear with this dress will have to be white, a warm pink or a woodsy brown. Since this dress makes me feel carefree, I believe the sandals will give the perfect style and grace for that added touch.

I don’t know how I could skip not adding a bag with this dress, but I’d consider something small because this is a light styled dress. (Let’s leave the big bags for the loud clothes, ladies. lol)

Feeling confident in this Bianca dress wasn’t hard to do. I put it on and stormed out the door as heads turned and cameras snapped. Add it to your cart and you won’t be disappointed, ladies.

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Live It Like Lizzo! 💌

I’m a big Lizzo fan..I jam to Truth Hurts every weekend!!! I LOVE HER!! ❤ lol I wish I had more friends with her personality and coolness. She seems like someone I could hang out with and laugh with.

I see so many people say they wish they had her confidence like she can’t be confident because she’s a full figured woman lol I see it as normal because she loves herself and when you love yourself you’re confident no matter the body type. You’re so into yourself because you don’t limit yourself based off the judgement of others.
(You aren’t here to please them.)

There are many men who prefer only larger women. 10 years ago, I remember a guy cheated on me with a fuller sized girl and he was skinnier than I was lol So we need to stop thinking just because someone is a certain size that it means they can’t do or have what others can have…anyone can have confidence.

When it comes to health matters, however, I believe it should be taken seriously. No matter what, slim or fluffy, your confidence should already be there.

NO MORE DARK CIRCLES, BAE!! 💋

If I stay up a little later than I should and wake up to dark circles, I have a “number 1” go to that I use. This “go to” makes it look like I got 20 hrs of sleep. 😂 Okay, so here is my secret: the Born This Way concealer by Too Faced Cosmetics is my life saver. This concealer has the best coverage for hiding under eye circles and blemishes.

Born This Way Concealer by Too Faced Cosmetics

Recently I joined the Ulta bandwagon just like your favorite YouTube beauty gurus. (although I am not a youtube beauty guru. 😂) The concealer also sculpts for a contouring finish. (YAY!!! You can’t beat that)

There are so many different shades and the shade of concealer I have here is in the color Maple.

Price: $28.00

http://www.toofaced.com

http://www.Ulta.com

http://www.sephora.com

Men See You How You SEE Yourself. So Work On You

If you want a man to treat you like a queen, I believe you must already see yourself as a queen and already see yourself as class. I am in my 30s and I didn’t realize this secret until my mid 20s. Lol I would be like, “why am I getting treated like I am less?” Because I was always so nice to give more than I was giving. In other words, “settling” and not realizing I was worthy. When people see you DON’T act worthy of yourself, they will feel they don’t have to put in much effort.

It’s all about how you treat yourself for them to know what kind of woman they are dealing with. You don’t even have to tell men what makes you happy sometimes, but it’s obvious by how you carry yourself.

If they offer you something you don’t want to do yet (for example, have sex on the first night and not go on a date) then you just have to go with your gut on how you truly feel, not his.

Going with your gut will get you further and more respect. More respect will give you better treatment, attention and better dates instead of booty calls. I try to preach this to women/young women all the time. If you settle for little then you will receive little in return.

If you know you want more in a relationship, then stop giving in to what you aren’t happy with. Let’s say he wants to you to meet him at his place for Netflix and chill, but deep down you want more than that. You want nice dinners, gifts and walks on the beach, meet his family, selfies and warm phone calls etc. However, you think telling him that will run him away so you settle for his way , right?

I believe if you put value on yourself then you’ll be respected more. Would you feel proud receiving a diamond if it were $20.00 or if it were $20,000.00? Immediatly, you wouldn’t care much about the diamond if the price was $15.00, but if you paid $20,000.00 for it then I’m sure you’d treat it like a child. You’d take extra care of it and would go crazy if something happened to it, right?

That is how I feel us women should see ourselves ….like something valuable and worthy. 💎 When we feel that way about who we are then others will too. Never settle to be treated like a $3.00 value meal when you’re a full course meal. You have so much to offer….you are NOT a snack.

ReNita XOXO 💋