Dress With Class If You Don’t Want To Attract Trash

Yes, crew! I have been a victim of this in my early 20s. I remember wondering why did I always attracted perverts or men that only wanted to try getting into my pants. Insert 20 something photo below. 👇

Can you believe I went on a date in the left photo dressed like that and expected to be treated like a queen? and then come back home complaining about how the guy was such a pervert or a creep? Thank goodness for wisdom and growth. Okay, I do believe in flaunting your curves and shape, but wearing a deep low cut with a mini skirt short as a shirt on a date does not scream BE MY MAN! It screams BE MY MAN FOR THE NIGHT! It screams, I’M HOT IN THE PANTS! Also even if a woman is dressed a bit risque (that’s a fancy word for extreme.) it doesn’t give a man the right to proceed in treating her with disrespect and perverted-ness.

A woman should be treated with respect and not be judged just from her appearance, but sadly the way you dress will give people the radar of what kind of person you are. I know, I hate believing that too, but it’s true. What isn’t fair that people automatically will assume your easy based off your body. 🤦‍♀️

Here are some photos below that will give men an example that you are looking for a long term from the get-go. You can still be sexy and classy and embrace your body without exploiting who you are.

It goes both ways, but this is referring to women that wonder why they attract men that only want to get in their pants. What’s the message you are sending? I’m not saying dress boring or un-sexy, dress how you want by all means, but if you want more respect you can combine sexiness with class by not exposing every of your ass. lol

Not being so desperate in conversations and thirsty so soon, even if you are dressed nice. When you are just getting to know someone, the early stages and first impressions counts so much for the outcome.

During my younger days I’d dress this way at times going out, but it would give the idea that I was easy when I wasn’t. I thought sexiness and a sexy body would give me a relationship and that my figure or showing skin would make the guys I want go crazier over me and fall in love with me. Man, did I have it all wrong. 🤦‍♀️😂 A lot of young women believe this as well, but a person does not fall in love based off your assets. lol Yes, it attracted men but they were attracted to me for the wrong reason and not for what I wanted. I knew I wanted more.

I was dressed like I wanted a fling when I didn’t. Was it because I thought my body was the way to a man’s heart? Did I lack the self love to dress with self respect when I seeked love from others? This is why they say you can’t truly receive true love if you don’t love yourself first. Sometimes women will hate hearing that and think it means boredom, but trust me, it will help you in the long run and improve your self worth.

If you are seeking love, you should let your goodies and sexual side be the surprise within. If you love to show the print of your vagina in tight pants, have cleavage as low as the south of the border and booty cheeks hanging out of shorts, go ahead. 🙅‍♀️ If you want someone to first get the impression that you are long-term, you are going to have to not be so openly sexually at first or dress so raw during the first few dates .

If you want to dress sexy or like an instagram baddie, it’s fun too and represents your confidence of coming out your shell, but going over the top with it will immediatly give others the impression that you are fast ( even if you aren’t.) There is classy feminine, classy sexy and sexy trashy; which one are you okay with? So if you don’t want to be judged as an easy target, add some class or else you’ll attract trash. I hope this helps.

Men See You How You SEE Yourself. So Work On You

If you want a man to treat you like a queen, I believe you must already see yourself as a queen and already see yourself as class. I am in my 30s and I didn’t realize this secret until my mid 20s. Lol I would be like, “why am I getting treated like I am less?” Because I was always so nice to give more than I was giving. In other words, “settling” and not realizing I was worthy. When people see you DON’T act worthy of yourself, they will feel they don’t have to put in much effort.

It’s all about how you treat yourself for them to know what kind of woman they are dealing with. You don’t even have to tell men what makes you happy sometimes, but it’s obvious by how you carry yourself.

If they offer you something you don’t want to do yet (for example, have sex on the first night and not go on a date) then you just have to go with your gut on how you truly feel, not his.

Going with your gut will get you further and more respect. More respect will give you better treatment, attention and better dates instead of booty calls. I try to preach this to women/young women all the time. If you settle for little then you will receive little in return.

If you know you want more in a relationship, then stop giving in to what you aren’t happy with. Let’s say he wants to you to meet him at his place for Netflix and chill, but deep down you want more than that. You want nice dinners, gifts and walks on the beach, meet his family, selfies and warm phone calls etc. However, you think telling him that will run him away so you settle for his way , right?

I believe if you put value on yourself then you’ll be respected more. Would you feel proud receiving a diamond if it were $20.00 or if it were $20,000.00? Immediatly, you wouldn’t care much about the diamond if the price was $15.00, but if you paid $20,000.00 for it then I’m sure you’d treat it like a child. You’d take extra care of it and would go crazy if something happened to it, right?

That is how I feel us women should see ourselves ….like something valuable and worthy. 💎 When we feel that way about who we are then others will too. Never settle to be treated like a $3.00 value meal when you’re a full course meal. You have so much to offer….you are NOT a snack.

ReNita XOXO 💋