I Finally Told My BFF To Be My Valentine And He Said…YES

With Valentine’s Day approaching sometimes Cupid starts to point his arrow at some of the most surprising targets. Some of us will spend this day saying it’s no big deal (bc it isn’t) some of us will enjoy it with a bucket of ice cream and a LMN movie while others will go all out celebrating it with someone we love (rather it be a loving partner, a date, family or our girlfriends) …

Well, after a month of dropping hints, I finally told my best friend of nearly 10 years that I wanted him to be my Valentine and he agreed… Things seem old fashioned and that’s what I like about him. He has always been there for me and this will be my 2nd ever Valentine’s EVER. So I would be more than honored to celebrate it with no one other than one of the closest friends in my life that I trust.. lol

He always gives me and my mom the best advice๐Ÿ˜Š What’s funny is that we’re born 1 month and 1 day apart..same life path numbers. .twin flames.. lol  As soon as he said “sure babe.”  I got nervous ๐Ÿ˜ฉ not sure why when he’s HIM… He’s been through so many things with me and so I have with him.

Lol kinda wanna change my mind bc I am still in relax mode after my final iron transfusion last week lol So I dont wanna get cute or do much right now  ๐Ÿ˜‚

but he says “I’m sure you’re gorgeous, babe”… lol ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿฅฐ Now I can’t back out lol We’ll just enjoy pizza and laugh at things as usual. ๐Ÿ˜‚ Virtual amidst covid perhaps. He’s my best friend and that’s all that matters.

Good Doctors Are Hard To Find…They’re Angels in Scrubs

One of my doctors was so touched today when I went for my follow up appointment. She thanked me for the thank you card and she said that simple cards like that to healthcare workers means so much more to them than just money a lot of  times… She said she was taking photos of my card and showing the staff. ๐Ÿ˜Š

I talk so fast around her when trying to tell so much because we have a little bit of time at appointments but a lot to say lol She has become like a second sister. …My story about how I had prayed for countless months to be healed and how my spirit led me to her.. (the only doctor after 6 months of 2 previous opinions) I am a black woman with Creole descent and so is she. Sadly I thought the reason other doctors didn’t take my situation serious was because I was in the minority and when I choose her she could relate. ..bc this is also something that was common in African American women. She  knew how to permanently stop the reason for my loss of blood cells with a simple solution that had saved my future and my future generation.

It was so inspiring; to her, myself and a few others I shared that part of my life with..

I won’t reveal her name yet until I am ready to one day tell everything I went through…the entire story! One day I will tell of this full blessed testimony of how God can lead you to the right people in life to help with you with things that seemed impossiable and when others said no…even when it took 3 opinions like it did with me ๐Ÿ˜Š..as of now I am thankful, overwhelmed and happy. ๐Ÿ˜Š

Thank you Dr. G.S.

Jealous Ones Still Envy

I overheard a woman saying that Godly people can’t envy lol I wanted to remind her the story I remembered from my bible study group days of how a God fearing king named King Saul had such envy for a sheppard boy named David who praised him and admired him..

David did so much to assist him in the palace while admiringโ€ฆyet King Saul was jealous of him..envied him for being closer to God and tried to kill him lol People can sometimes envy your relationship with God.

I was shocked when I found that out as a teenager..my aunt used to explain that to us. They can have everything in life- lots of money, fancy cars, a happy marriage, a family, an education, talent- and yet STILL envy othersโ€ฆeven envy those that are inspired by them. Don’t be blinded.

Remain faithful to doing good on earth and doing the right thing. Your light will shine to God as long as you are focused and balanced with self.

Girls Trip Planning.. Miami 2021 HERE I COME

So I have decided to go on an all girls trip/spa retreat in Miami with some ladies I met from Facebook groups for women in need of making other female friends. That sounds desperate, no? but I love this group and I really bond and click with these other girls. I’ve always wanted to go on a girls trip, but no chics have asked to travel with me. I sure don’t want to travel alone when I go on my getaway trips for my regular me-time. As you have noticed, I don’t really have as many close girlfriends. ๐Ÿ˜ฆ lol The only one I am close to is married and I know she has other responsibilities and such, which I humbly respect. (love her..) The other few close friends I have are 2 guys and how would I be able to enjoy doing girly things with them? lol.

I’ve always wanted to have a group of girlfriends like on The Golden Girls or Waiting Exhale, where we can laugh and enjoy the physical view of life on earth…TOGETHER. I want to be on Miami beach taking selfies with a group of girlfriends and making memories. ๐Ÿ™‚ Some women have asked to do things with me were women that had a history of being mean/petty towards or just wanted to know my information on things…so I wouldn’t want any awkward feelings. Sometimes finding your tribe is hard though. It would just be nice to have a group that doesn’t act as if I did something wrong or serve me with attitude for no reason or use me. I know these new friends and I will hit it off when we explore Miami together. I CAN’T WAIT! I really am looking forward to this trip because it is definitely needed. I can hear the sound of the beach music down the street and I can smell the coconut drinks at the tiki bar. We’ll have to shop at the mall (Dolphin Mall) and the boutiques in the plaza as we laugh along our way. CAN’T WAIT! CAN’T WAIT!

6 Surprising Things That I’ve Experienced In 2020!!

2020 has been a total shock for some of us and things happened that caught us off guard. Perhaps since the era of the year changed, that was a bomb that landed on our heads. ๐Ÿ˜‚ This pandemic and the longest election ever has made this year one of the strangest years drizzled in what the hell moments lol but I still had an overall good year. The year isn’t over yet though. Here are some of the BIG things that caught me off guard ๐Ÿ˜‚

  1. So my dog howls when I mention the name of his dog buddies. ๐Ÿ• I’ve never heard him howl before! I thought it was only a wild wolf thing. ๐Ÿค” I took him to visit one of his pals from the old neighborhood and he was pleased.
  2. My best friend and I flirt A LOT now โ€ฆnearly a decade later and  BOOM where are all these weird feelings coming from that we don’t understand?โ€ฆ ๐Ÿ’.. lol ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ Notโ€ฆhim. phew TOTALLY UNEXPECTANT. We both had to stop each other from flirting yesterday. ๐Ÿ˜‚ I needed to go to my safe place and meditate ๐Ÿ˜Š Gosh, him?  lmao ๐Ÿ˜‚ now my heart is beating. phew
  3. I gave up coffee months ago. I know, I don’t see how I did it but consuming coffee so much slacks up your routine. I had to let that habit go because I was totally dependent on it.. ๐Ÿ™…โ€โ™€๏ธ (refer to a previous blog discussing this dilemma lol.)
  4. One of my dead plants from the summer started back blooming. I thought it was dead from all that heat this summer..I left it alone for months, but just like Lazarus, it rose from the dead.  ๐Ÿ˜‚  ๐Ÿฅ€๐ŸŒน It’s blooming yellow and I take it as a sign of renewal. I’ll rename it Lazarus lol
  5. I got a blood transfusion over the summer while in the hospital.. bc I’m anemic ๐Ÿง›โ€โ™€๏ธlol wasn’t as creepy as I thoughtโ€ฆit increased my intuition. Maybe I’m a vampire because I do work part time as a psychic and I stay up late and love gloomy weather lol
  6. I finally got a Camaro in January after dreaming of it as a child..Dreams really do come true ๐Ÿ˜. ……………So there you have it. I am thankful that my surprises weren’t anything negative; if they were, it’s best to turn negatives into positives. What were some things that took you by surprise in this ROLLERCOASTER of a year? lol Oh yes and we had a full moon on Halloween, how unpredictable was that? lol

A Simple ‘Pick Me Up’ Vitamin C Drink

Since I have given up coffee over 4 months ago, I have gotten very creative with making healthy drinks. So I have this addiction for adding fruits to my orange juice in the morning. I wanted to share this wake up drink that’s bursting with vitamin c. I like to wake up to
fruit blended drinks because it gives me just the right nutrients to jump start my day. WATCH MY VIDEO BELOW!!

Strawberries are good in vitamin c and so is orange juice. Having fruits early in the morning or before bed also helps with digestion, MOOD ENHANCING and helps you to use the bathroom (via #2 lol If you ain’t poopin then you ain’t groovin lol) I have also found out that making this fruity drink is great for relieving stress and makes you feel relaxed. (Insert yoga meditation pose here. _______ ) I like to sit by the window as the sun is shining on me and pretend that
I am somewhere on a tropical island. It also wouldn’t hurt to add some tropical music to listen to in the background as you devour your tropical drink lol (ahem…passes you a virtual coconut cup with the umbrella straw. lol)

So all you need to do is chop as many strawberries as you like and add some non concentrated orange juice. THAT’S IT! You can cut the strawberries into small circles and toss them in the glass, afterwards pour the orange juice over the strawberries. All the vitamin C in there is enough to keep you glowing and going strong for the day. What’s fun is that after drinking the orange juice, there is the left over strawberries to munch on for a healthy snack.
This drink is sure to give you the burst of energy you need to start your day
or anytime you need a pick me up.

You’re welcome!

ReNita XOXO

Dress With Class If You Don’t Want To Attract Trash

Yes, crew! I have been a victim of this in my early 20s. I remember wondering why did I always attracted perverts or men that only wanted to try getting into my pants. Insert 20 something photo below. ๐Ÿ‘‡

Can you believe I went on a date in the left photo dressed like that and expected to be treated like a queen? and then come back home complaining about how the guy was such a pervert or a creep? Thank goodness for wisdom and growth. Okay, I do believe in flaunting your curves and shape, but wearing a deep low cut with a mini skirt short as a shirt on a date does not scream BE MY MAN! It screams BE MY MAN FOR THE NIGHT! It screams, I’M HOT IN THE PANTS! Also even if a woman is dressed a bit risque (that’s a fancy word for extreme.) it doesn’t give a man the right to proceed in treating her with disrespect and perverted-ness.

A woman should be treated with respect and not be judged just from her appearance, but sadly the way you dress will give people the radar of what kind of person you are. I know, I hate believing that too, but it’s true. What isn’t fair that people automatically will assume your easy based off your body. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ

Here are some photos below that will give men an example that you are looking for a long term from the get-go. You can still be sexy and classy and embrace your body without exploiting who you are.

It goes both ways, but this is referring to women that wonder why they attract men that only want to get in their pants. What’s the message you are sending? I’m not saying dress boring or un-sexy, dress how you want by all means, but if you want more respect you can combine sexiness with class by not exposing every of your ass. lol

Not being so desperate in conversations and thirsty so soon, even if you are dressed nice. When you are just getting to know someone, the early stages and first impressions counts so much for the outcome.

During my younger days I’d dress this way at times going out, but it would give the idea that I was easy when I wasn’t. I thought sexiness and a sexy body would give me a relationship and that my figure or showing skin would make the guys I want go crazier over me and fall in love with me. Man, did I have it all wrong. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜‚ A lot of young women believe this as well, but a person does not fall in love based off your assets. lol Yes, it attracted men but they were attracted to me for the wrong reason and not for what I wanted. I knew I wanted more.

I was dressed like I wanted a fling when I didn’t. Was it because I thought my body was the way to a man’s heart? Did I lack the self love to dress with self respect when I seeked love from others? This is why they say you can’t truly receive true love if you don’t love yourself first. Sometimes women will hate hearing that and think it means boredom, but trust me, it will help you in the long run and improve your self worth.

If you are seeking love, you should let your goodies and sexual side be the surprise within. If you love to show the print of your vagina in tight pants, have cleavage as low as the south of the border and booty cheeks hanging out of shorts, go ahead. ๐Ÿ™…โ€โ™€๏ธ If you want someone to first get the impression that you are long-term, you are going to have to not be so openly sexually at first or dress so raw during the first few dates .

If you want to dress sexy or like an instagram baddie, it’s fun too and represents your confidence of coming out your shell, but going over the top with it will immediatly give others the impression that you are fast ( even if you aren’t.) There is classy feminine, classy sexy and sexy trashy; which one are you okay with? So if you don’t want to be judged as an easy target, add some class or else you’ll attract trash. I hope this helps.

Catepillars and Butterflies.

Here is a photo of me in 7th grade before I physically transformed and blossomed into a butterfly ๐Ÿ›๐Ÿฆ‹ I also realized that people who were ugly on the inside can transform to inner beauty.

Remember when some of you all would call me all those rude names in the 7th grade and made fun of my weave ponytail? lol I admit, I was very much a tomboy and didn’t care about being pretty until my senior year of high school. I was just enjoying being a kid and wasn’t at my blossoming stage yet. So many girls my age moved so fast and I didn’t fit in. Many times I’d eat my lunch in the cafeteria bathroom so the bullies wouldn’t embarass me. 

At this age, my bullies didn’t know of other things I had going on in my life. Junior high was a living hell. Imagine getting bullied everyday about your hairstyles as soon as you got on the school bus and then being bullied in school by both girls and boys..then riding the school bus home to get bullied again. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ Sometimes when I’d go home, my dad argued so much if my grades were low or if I had gained weight. Just like the kids at school didn’t know I had things going on at home, my dad didn’t know I had things going at school.

My confidence had dropped low at the time because of people; but no matter what, I always remained sweet until I pushed to the limit lolย  I find it funny, the same people that did me so wrong are asking for my advice today and my dad finally seems impressed with things I work hard for. I’m happy about that because it shows that people can change..The best advice I can give you is to treat others with kindness. I have this belief that being kind to other people and having a nice personality makes you all the more beautiful. Don’t be negative or dramatic in life.ย  Blessings will soon follow once you are kind to others. Don’t waste time awaiting revenge. Their karma sometimes will allow them to become better people. Working on yourself mentally and physically is the greatest transformation of all.. To transform into a butterfly, you must use this time to work on you in those areas. To win and to get there is to not focus on them showing their ugly side, they haven’t transformed yet either. Keep smiling. Keep moving.

-ReNita XOXO ๐Ÿ’•

KiCk.PuSH

20200816_125851I just finished my 2 miles and I almost wanted to stop, but I kept pushing through to get to the end. I was always told if you want something hard enough you have to put in effort and make it happen. You can’t just sit around and wait for things to happen without kicking and pushing forward.

You must learn to kick through the walls and push away the negative. This concept is applied sometimes in Karate and even with skateboarding. (All thanks to Lupe Fiasco’s hip hop hit Kick Push.) When you see karate you see the martial artists going against the oppentant he pushes him and kicks him, blocking him from trying to win his victory.

In skateboarding, the skateboarders have a technique with their foot where they push to get some good motion and kick to glide through. I find it interesting that we must use the same techniques in life, but mentally. Are you kicking and pushing through all the BS in order to win your victory? Are you gliding through?

Are You A Little Red Corvette? Fast and Easy?

20200814_002832After driving in the rain from my favorite place, Taco Bell ๐ŸŒฎ, I smiled as I turned up the volumn knob on the radio. Prince’s song Little Red Corvette filled my ears as I imagined the icon singing with his guitar on stage. I was taken by surprise as I had a chance to actually understand the lyrics and the meaning. I mean, growing up I always assumed he was referring to a red Corvette but aha I was misled. Prince was symbolizing a fast woman being like a fast car. It dawned on me

Little red Corvette
Baby you’re much too fast
Little red Corvette
You need a love that’s gonna last

How many of you have been a little red Corvette or felt guilty of moving fast? lol It can be hard, especially when liking someone so soon. If you are looking for love, you are going to have to slow down and take it seriously. Serious means taking things slow. (refer to lyrics listed above lol โ˜๏ธ)ย  Although sex is apart of human nature, we must know how to seperate the mind from the lower anatomy in the early stages of dating when seeking a loving relationship. Many daters were lucky to still marry the one after giving it up on the first night, but in most cases it isn’t a guarantee. You should always be careful to guard your heart. (and your health.)

Coming from a guy like Prince (who is as sexual as they come, bless his soul) he is even admitting that men want love from women who aren’t fast.ย  Sometimes women will become easy and fast when they think it’s a way to get a man to love them fast (because men are stereotyped as sex hungry) but actually the anticipation and sticking to your standards is what keeps them interested. (It makes you a challenge and challenges are more exciting and adventurous like a real little red corvette.)

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