Do People Want What They Can’t Have?

Sometimes it would seem like attached men pursued me more than ones that weren’t attached and the ones that weren’t attached pursued the attached lol It would seem like great women or men pursued or stayed with someone that didn’t make them happy. Is this because they don’t know their worth or just love the intensity? I guess they say people want what they can’t have. Hmmm not everyone is this way though. Some people just truly seek happiness on a mutual level. I’d rather have what has my title on it (not someone elses lol).. I never want the left overs on a plate. Be with someone who can give you the excitement of Christmas morning and Christmas day…not just a night of Christmas Eve. Wanting what you can’t have is depressing ..the only time I want something I can’t have is if it’s an empowering challenge that can push me to become better leading me to end up getting it. (For example a job, degree, money, beauty, things that are good for you but are intimidating to aim for) πŸ™‚ Pursue what you doubt you can’t have only if it makes you a better person and that you know if you try then you can get it.

If it’s a woman (or a man) you are pursuing..make sure they are single and want to be pursued so you won’t drive yourself crazy. If it’s a woman or a man that’s out your league then upgrade yourself inside and out before you doubt and say, “Nah, I’d never have a chance.”

I don’t mean change who you are as a person. I mean if they are well groomed and neat then you should be well groomed and neat too. If they are very kind and confident, but you’re always sad and low confident then work on becoming a more confident and kind person too. You attract what you reflect. Upgrade yourself to get on the level of the type of person you want.

I believe the only time a woman should pursue a man is if he is too damn shy to make a move. I don’t think a woman should chase a man down (some men like it I guess lol) but it isn’t feminine. Just give him a SMALL pursue to see if he steps in to beat others in your race lol

ReNita XOXOπŸ’‹

Jump In. Just Do It!

My niece is a very talented young lady. She shows off her gift of singing in the church and in music class, but sometimes she wants to show her other talents. I asked her what is holding her back. She rolled her eyes with a sigh and said, “Oh, someone will probably laugh at me.”




I can remember being that age and wondering what others would think of me before I did something. When you think this way, you are actually letting an opportunity pass you by.

Are you focused on satisfying others or satisfying your own heart? These people you are worried about aren’t living your life so why should you let their actions determine your action?

Ever since I was a little girl, if I wanted to participate in something then I’d do it. My heart pushed me and I would follow because of the excitement.

If you want to sky dive ,TAKE A RISK! DO IT! If you want to dance on the dance floor, DO IT! Sometimes you have to do things totally out of your comfort zone to accomplish goals and feel confident. The feeling of completing a goal will last with you a lifetime.

A few years ago, I wanted to complete my first 5K race because I had seen people share selfies Instagram showing off their accomplishment. I would think to myself, Wow they seem so motivated and enthusiastic in their 5k shirts as they hold up their medals. I wanted to be in their shoes so bad that I jumped in to do it. I almost backed out when I began thinking the negative thoughts about the 5k: that I would be too shy and out of breath to run, that I would be running by myself because I didn’t have any friends to run with me and that I was intimidated by the experienced runners.

As soon as I realized that I was letting my thoughts consume me, I shook my head and immediately wasted no time to sign up for the race. I jumped in and just did it! To this day, I am glad that I made that effort and took action. I ended up running in the top 15 and had received a beautiful runners trophy that is now on the shelf of my trophy collection. πŸ™‚

Cut off the noise in your head and those insecure thoughts! Do something you’ve always wanted to do and you will have something to feel proud about as a mile stone. Use mile stones as stepping stones to look back on. Having miles stones will most definitely motivate you to take further steps in the future.

ReNita XOXOπŸ’‹

Recharge. Reset. ReNew

β€œRest when you’re weary. Refresh and renew yourself, your body, your mind, your spirit. Then get back to work.” –Ralph Marston

As I sit here at the kitchen table sipping the tea from my mug, my dog is staring in my face with those Chihuahua eyes. He knows that I have to be up early in the morning for a very important meeting. I can sense him telling me that I need to stop and rest for now. If I rest for now, perhaps when I come back I will have more ideas for my blog, right? I immediately tell him to hold on as I type in a few words for those of you on the other side of this screen. (I’m stubborn, huh? πŸ˜‰ )

Sometimes you have to know when to stop, recharge and reset…to come back BETTER. When we reset and recharge, we are able to have clearer thoughts and awareness to the world around us. Clearer thoughts will produce better decisions that we make in our everyday lives. People who don’t set time for themselves are usually prone to become stressed, overwhelmed and will end up doing things they never wanted to do.

You need to pause and recollect your thoughts. You must learn to become more organized by de-cluttering the gunk in your mental space and physical space.

Find some time to have some me-time. (Even if it’s just on your lunch break, in the bath tub or taking a few minutes to inhale fresh air you will be thankful for those little recharging moments. Be thankful.

I guarantee that you will see and feel a difference in your mood.

ReNita XOXO πŸ™‚ πŸ’‹

About Me…

undefined Renita A. Burgess is a national best selling author and entrepreneur who has written over 30 books for Amazon and Barnes and Noble. She is a woman of many hats; having made interview appearances on both television and radio regarding her work. ReNita’s motivation and drive all began when she entered MANY beauty pageants and school plays through out her life.

One of her favorite memories as a child is playing church with her cousins and sisters because the entire family would be laughing at each other. At that point, ReNita realized that laughter cures so many things and she refers to her personality as goofy and fun loving.

A survivor of verbal abuse, self abuse and sexual abuse; she overcame a life threatening eating disorder in her early teens as well as high school bullying and college sexual abuse. Today she uses her past trauma to be an inspiration to others.

In her spare time, ReNita loves to travel to new places and see different sights. Her favorite shows are The Golden Girls, The Twilight Zone and Frasier as well as Tyler Perry’s The Have and the Have Nots.

Morning jogs in nature with her mixed Chihuahua is where you will always find her. She has a passion for animals, fitness, children and doing anything artsy and creative. If you were to ever visit her home, you will be surprised to see that she collects many dolls and Victorian antiques. Just like any red blooded woman, ReNita loves to shop and do her hair and makeup. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚