I’m A Flower Still Waiting To Be Given Flowers…

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💐Okay so I can imagine all the weird facial expressions that people would give me when I told them I’ve never received flowers from a man before. I’ve had people tell me, “Yeah right. You lying!” but honestly I’m not. sips tea ☕😂 By the way, tulips are my favorite flowers. 😊 So I guess I’m just a bit old fashioned, huh? I love nice things, but the little gestures means so much. Receiving a text that says “Good morning baby, good morning queen.”  is the closest thing to receiving flowers sometimes.

The feeling of importance and being on someone’s thoughts is just like virtually handing me flowers. I get all giggly and roll around in bed whenever I’d receive a morning text. I can only imagine what it will be like when I am gifted flowers 😂. Sigh. When dating, I never ask a man because I wait to see if he will so I am waiting 😂 (or hinting. Lol)

Not sure if men still think flowers are a sweet gesture because times have changed. I love flowers because I enjoy gardening and growing flowers. Flowers remind me of a beautiful woman that’s rare to find. They should be cared for and nurtured, they’re delicate and they attract bees and butterflies (just like women attract men and are pursued.)

The sight and smell of flowers always uplifts my mood and they are so naturally beautiful within and out. It’s amazing how something created from God can grow from the earth and just be a simple expression to save a relationship at times. Not many women care about flowers as much as I do, I’m told. I was told that some men don’t believe in giving flowers anymore because they think all women want material things. 

 What I am saying is, while I don’t mind being spoiled, a bouquet of flowers makes me happy. 😊 I know I could have just asked guys and had them given to me, but I don’t want to to ask for special moments like that. I want whom ever I’m with to just surprise me and catch me off guard. I love surprises!! 😊 I used to feel like a misfit because so many girls and women have already experienced that moment and here I am at age 34 still awaiting like a 15 year old at a sleepover ; giggling about what her first kiss will be like lol

The good thing about it is that who ever gives me my flowers will be the first, making him someone to stand out than anyone from my past. 😊

I’ve had guys tell me they would have given me flowers but it was usually the ones I wasn’t interested in lol (topsy turvy, huh?) lol My best friend told me that his girlfriend is 35 and that he was the first to give her flowers. Everyone has their season or flower season. Everyone has their once in a life time moment that happens on it’s own without force.

I remember thinking, how is it that they call me I’m beautiful but I haven’t received flowers yet? I’d be thinking, ‘Is there something wrong with me?’ Hahaha but no, there is nothing wrong with me and I don’t want any other woman to feel that way either. I see it as God holding off on that moment so the man meant for me will show off. God saves things that are meant to be special for you for the special person and at the special time. Just as when you have to wait until Christmas to open your amazing gifts, it will feel more special. I have a bucket list of things I am still waiting to do that I haven’t experienced yet with a man and I know it’s a sign from God that those moments will be shared with the one I may marry …making it the best!!!!😉

So raise your glasses and make a toast 🥂 for knowing that your inexperience is a gift awaiting to be unwrapped. ..

For the moment, see yourself as a flower awaiting to be sniffed by a handsome and rare bee. 🌺🐝

How I Maintained My Curves Without Working Out HARD For 3 Weeks.

I haven’t worked out in about 3 weeks because I don’t want to lose any of my good weight. I’d like to keep some of my fun body parts lol I worked out for 100 days straight ever since New Years Eve 2019 (big goal) and I recently finished a 10k (another big goal!) When I work out hard it’s usually to either lose or to build. ..So although I’ve reached my goal, I’ve been doing light cardio to maintain everything and watching what I put in my mouth.

Sometimes people reach their goal and not sure what to do after getting there. They either gain it all back or lose what they don’t want to lose.

If you don’t pay attention sometimes then that’s when all the uncessary weight comes from. (and that’s what I try to be cautious of.) So I’ve been taking it easy..but still being physically active daily and choosing my foods carefully.   Next week I’ll be back to building; lifting my weights for lower body and keeping my core toned. I never really lift heavy weights on upper body. If I need to tone my arms I use aerobics for that area. I try to keep a feminine form, but I love creating a sexy cut in my back.  😊😊

To Be Envied Or Inspire..

To be envied or to inspire??..that is the question. I had a girl told me she used to be jealous of me and I was a bit surprised.. Honestly I’d rather inspire people than to be envied. If people are envious then you have no friends and I only have a few…. always wanted a big group of positive girlfriends. I feel if we inspire others then there will be no room for envy because people will be motivated to become their best self. Your energy will light theirs up just from yours being bright.  Ever been around certain people that just made you feel an energy boost just from being around them? That’s what you should feel and who you should be around.

If not, be the one to help them feel positive by first working on yourself and becoming your greatest version.

When I’d find out someone felt that way I’d be like “There is no need to be if you knew all the sad things I overcame.” I am thankful I can use that to motivate others. God kept me and I am still here.  Be thankful. Smile. Love. Focus on what’s best for you in this life you have. 🙃🌞 Life is too short. Great memories last longer. Make them.

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Finished My 10k Run- Cooper River Bridge Virtual Run! 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

Alas! I completed my first 10k run/walk. The goal had been on my mind for months so I signed up for the Cooper River Bridge Run months ago. Although the Covid 19 pandemic caused the race to be canceled in April, participants had the option to complete it virtually or wait until the late summer of August. Disappointed, I took matters into my own hands and continued to complete the goal I had my mind set on. I transferred over to the virtual race. At first I was I was like, man I really just want to run over the bridge with the Charleston batterty around me, the river and the marinas. What fun would it be? But of course, when I found out that hundreds of participants were having fun doing the run virtually within their neighborhood or preferred location I hopped on board. Sometimes you have to turn the worst situation into a positive one and not give up.

Grabbing my tennis shoes and my yoga pants and tee, I tossed my natural kinky hair into a bun and picked the location of our local lake park to complete my 10k. Nevermind ignoring the safety cautions for Covid 19, I quickly put on my medical mask and hit the ground running.

The atmosphere was refreshing and the people around me were friendly; some were fishing, riding bikes or getting in their healthy mile.

Adding more power to my walk, I kept going- harder and harder. A group of friends walked together. They spoke. I spoke and smiled; realizing my smile was unnoticable under my mask. I thought it was a positive thing for them to be doing; walking in a group together to meet their fitness goals.

2 miles in within 35 minutes. Great! ONLY 4 miles to go!

I ran some. I walked some. Ran some. My nose ran and eyes watered from the wind, but I couldn’t stop then. I kept on going. I kept pushing myself. By the time I made it to my 5th mile people were staring at me as if I were crazy because I was going around the park so many times. An hour in. Almost there. I was dizzy. I was thirsty. I kept going. I couldn’t give up. The sun was burning my big forehead, but it was just giving me the vitamin D I needed. No harm done.

Kids were fishing with their father as the sun was setting in the distance; a beautiful mist of orange over the horizon.

Almost there! Almost there! 🕠

Damn! I left my bottle of water in the car.

My mouth is dry!

But…I won’t stop. Can’t stop!

An elderly couple was in my way walking their pup, it’s fluffy tail wagged in front of them. I ran around them to get ahead. I needed more space.

My mom’s annoying self texted me. 🤦‍♀️Ugghh! Can’t she see I’m busy? Lol

Mama: You almost done?

Me: Yes mama! Geez!

Mama: Okay! Look behind you and be careful.

Me: Duhhh

Putting my phone away, I looked down at my tracker. Phew. A few seconds left.

6.21miles….6.22 miles … I did it!!! Although I could have done better, I didn’t beat myself up. My mask was annoying my breathing and my mom kept texting 😂 but I am still happy! I did it! I didn’t back out! It was my first 10k and it was a big challenge for me! Something I never thought I could do and something I’m blessed and was able to do. This will definitly help me get better and see the difference in my next 10k! I am so thrilled! We should all be thankful we’re able to walk and move around. It’s a blessing! Get up and get moving! Set a healthy goal with being active. I did!! Now I must screenshot my results to the Cooper River Bridge people and receive a medal!!!!! 😌🏆🏅🏅🏅

Of course, I staggered back to my car and went home to soak in a bubble bath. It was NEEDED! 😂

Confessions Of A Coffee Addict.. ☕(replacing coffee ..ugghh..the pain)

Ditching my coffee for organic smoothies starting Tuesday. Let’s see if I can do this for 30 days or forever!! *screams like a guitarist from a metal hair band 😱.. Although I will miss the roasting smell of coffee brewing in the mornings☕ followed by milky cream of hazelnut added. 🤦‍♀️ I crave just from the thought of it, but it’s a habit I am trying to cut out. 😂
       (Sigh 😌) The urge for coffee started when an aunt of mine was visiting. See, every morning I’d wake up to the smell of her brewing Maxwell House or Folgers. 🤨 The scent tempted me.  Curious and confused on why so many Americans take a leap to this stimulant, I tried it. (only to become an addict.) Since I am already a health nut and I workout 5 days a week, my good angel😇 on my right shoulder said, “Why not just replace coffee with healthy smoothies in the morning?” However, my devil angel 😈on my left shoulder laughed and said, “Girl, you know you need your coffee! You’re an author! Coffee helps with your imagination.”
I rolled my eyes. I sighed. Annoyed.
I feel like it is a healthy mental goal to complete and I’m ready to give it a try.
(A try to start my mornings dry, right?🤦‍♀️😂)
Not really! Mind you I will be pouring a refreshing smoothie into my Starbucks mug and savoring the moment. *sticks nose in the air.* Now EXCUSEE me as I add a variety of fruits and veggies for smoothie blends into the cart of my online shopping app. 😊
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You See Their Rainbows,🌈 But Maybe They’ve Had Storms…. ⛈

Sometimes people will hate on you for no reason before they know your whole story. Lol WELL….I’m not perfect. My body was never as fit. My skin isn’t that perfect (I’m just a genius with how to do makeup lol) Sometimes I talk so fast you may not understand me but I love it.  I was never the person I am now. I went thru some deeeep hell during the ages 18-23 so I don’t even know how I survived. God and His angels had to have got me through so mucg.  If you hate on someone (or maybe throw shade) please stop and think for a second and maybe be happy for them. You may not even know what they had to go through before they got blessed. You may not know how many jobs turned them down before they got that promotion. Maybe they got their license late in life before they got a Camaro  *hint hint* You may not know what they been through before they got that wedding ring 
I heard this girl tell me, “Renita I don’t be seein how you do so much and look so good with all you have going on. You’re an author and you started some businesses.”

I was flattered but girl, I learned a lot. I’m a student of life but now I’m the teacher. For one, if you want to be happy in life you have to learn to be happy by depending on happiness with yourself…know thyself..then you can be happy with someone …bc it’s healthier that way.  Never feel like you can’t be happy UNLESS you have someone. Be happy to share your happiness WITH someone but already be happy and work on you.  If you want to be successful then you need a plan, you need effort and to follow through. Learn to save some money and be wise.

Love you, 🥰
Renita XOXO

And My Angels Spoke…

Having a powerful 3rd eye is one of the best gifts I use because I am able to hear from other dimensions. My angels and my spirits are very different and I can tell the difference when they visit me. My angels are always very cheerful and super sweet. My spirts are very strict. I was listening to my angels and I felt the energy entering my room just like they always did when I was 9 years old in bed. Lol I felt how much they care about me. I asked them why do they care so much..I was like ‘what have I done for you all to be so sweet to me? Some of you don’t know me, you’re just doing your job” lol..and one of my angel’s voice came through and said, “well don’t you give things to people and you are sweet for no reason too? Don’t you do things for people that you don’t know too? If you have ever felt like you helped and gave more to people than you have received then that’s where we come along. That’s why we are so sweet to you. Being there for you is fullfilling to us.”

And the tears of joy flowed from my eyes as I heard them and the message faded as usual when I hear them. It made so much sense. Sometimes we are just naturally nice to everyone because it fullfills us. …even if we have done more than received.

Don’t look for that.

The message I am sharing is: do things from the kindness of your heart. Be nice from the kindness of your heart…not for selfish gain or to brag, but because it gives you joy and has uplifted another.

She’s A Runner! Running To Goals! 🏃‍♀️10k Vibes

I have been training for my 3rd run/walk for months. My first 2 runs were 5ks but I have never done a 10k before.  This year I’m taking it up a notch with a life long goal of finally completing the Cooper River Bridge Run in one of my favorite cities, Charleston, SC. I just love everything about the city of Charleston: the food, the music, the history, the art and most of all knowing that my best friend, Carolyn, lives there. 

One of the things I wanna do is say that I’ve FINALLY made it over that bridge. Running over that triangle bridge (the battery) will be my symbol of overcoming all the past obstacles in my life. ⭐🙌❤ My mom doesn’t seem to agree when I do these type of things, but I have always been the risky/dare devil child of hers. 😈 Tell my mom that she can go stuff her mouth with an egg. 😂 jk (love u mom.) Excuse me as I prepare for this evenings workout. There is a crystal clear bottle of Dasani water waiting for me and I shall devour it. 😊 💦

STATUS: 10K TRAINING: LOADING_________

ReNita Says Adopt A Pet..

Save a life and adopt a dog or a cat. If they can’t find a home by a certain amount of time they are put down. Especially with Valentine’s Day coming up..if you are lonely or don’t have kids yet lol .
I’m not just saying that because I’m a dog/cat person. ❤ But pets are great to have mentally and physically. You’ll be thankful. Your life will be happier. I also think it’s bad karma if you don’t take care of a pet or if you mistreat. 😔 Make sure you give it love and your time. Visit your local animal shelter today!

Live It Like Lizzo! 💌

I’m a big Lizzo fan..I jam to Truth Hurts every weekend!!! I LOVE HER!! ❤ lol I wish I had more friends with her personality and coolness. She seems like someone I could hang out with and laugh with.

I see so many people say they wish they had her confidence like she can’t be confident because she’s a full figured woman lol I see it as normal because she loves herself and when you love yourself you’re confident no matter the body type. You’re so into yourself because you don’t limit yourself based off the judgement of others.
(You aren’t here to please them.)

There are many men who prefer only larger women. 10 years ago, I remember a guy cheated on me with a fuller sized girl and he was skinnier than I was lol So we need to stop thinking just because someone is a certain size that it means they can’t do or have what others can have…anyone can have confidence.

When it comes to health matters, however, I believe it should be taken seriously. No matter what, slim or fluffy, your confidence should already be there.