Blueberry Tea and Meeee

It’s  Sunday Funday so you know what that means. I prefer sipping from my selection of tea in the sun on Sundays. This afternoon’s decision of blueberry tea led me to soak in some sun at our local bakery- BAKER’S SWEETS ( It’S too bad they weren’t open because I could really use one of their blueberry muffins!! BUMMER! 😖) Although I wasn’t blue, I was in the mood to wear my beautiful blue outfit from It’s Fashion Metro.

This blue top accentuates the waistline with 5 middle down buttons. What I love about it the most is the fluffy vest-like collar. The blue and white strips immediatly gives me sailor vibes.

Luckily the blue pants were stretchy material with the length of a capri wear. I accesorized with matching white beaded earrings and a necklace that dangled on my chest. I absoloutly felt my most confident in this outfit. Looking BLUE never felt so good!!!

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* Location: Baker’s Sweets Lake City, SC

 

Why I Don’t Cuss? It’s NOT Feminine

A lot of people ask why I never curse (cuss)..even when I was working at Blue Cross Blue Sheild they’d ask me. lol I’m okay if my friends do it because it’s funny and we crack up.  I’ll cuss to myself, but I never cuss around people and I don’t cuss on my posts. lol
I may get by with “damn” or “hell” from time to time 😂 but I don’t use the “S” word or the “F” word or the “B” word.  I let the characters in my books use them. 😂😂😂 You may say not cussing is just as dry as a person who doesn’t have a fun drink on the weekend or a cheat meal during a diet (I am a sinner to those two pleasures. I surrender!!! lol)
Although I dressed like a boy growing up, (so mama put me in a lot of beauty pageants to get me more girly lol) I was always raised that cussing and being loud is not feminine and is a masculine trait..so I don’t really do it.

If my friends do it, I laugh and I’m fine with it 😂 very normal and I don’t judge. I was told a curse is a curse lol

Here is a secret, I always found that men pursued me a lot when I never cussed or acted loud too. In high school and college, other girls did that and I’d feel left out because I didn’t know how to cuss in a cool way. When I did, they’d laugh at me because of how I talked lol. My mama always made sure we came across as respectful and it showed from home training. My sister and I were very quiet girls. 🙂 and my niece is the same too….except I’d get in fist fights with boys in elementary, jr high and high school 😂😂😂 My mama always said to never hit anyone until they hit me first. Yes, that is the only time I’d come out of my sweet charm. (I just didn’t cuss!) 😂😂😂

Simply Summer Hippie

ReNita is wearing the Astria dress from Haute Swimwear….. Straw hat is from Lime Lush Boutique 🥝

So when I tell you I simply love this dress I SIMPLY love this dress! Not only is it a dress, but it’s a swim suit cover up. There are times when I go to the beach and don’t want to have all the attention drawn to my curvaceous assets so this comes in handy a great deal.

I was sent this sexy little number from a company called Haute Swim Wear. Their clothing brand has swim suits, bikinis and cover ups so go check them out. I love the feel of this dress. It’s light weight and a bit see through so be sure to wear a slip underneath if you are wearing it as a dress and wear your bikini or bathing suit under if wearing it as a cover up at the beach or pool.

The feel is sheer and it has a v- neck plunging neckline with the stretchy material at the waist. (you know, the material that shows off those curves and gives you that shape.) The BEST thing about this dress is that one size fits most!

I had looked online for what seemed like hours for the perfect hat to rock with this dress so the universe showed me a company called Lime Lush. I quickly made my purchase and once it arrived, I paired the hat with the dress and realized the shaded colors screamed of lemonade on the front porch in the afternoon.

👗Astria dress by Haute Swimwear https://haute-swimwear.com/products/astria-dress-1

(use my discount: RENITA15 for Haute Swimwear)

👒Straw brim hat by Lime Lush https://www.limelush.com/natural-wide-brim-straw-hat-with-leopard-ribbon-and-bow/

Maybe She Was An Angel…

Have you ever had a friendly connection with certain people because of their energy and their vibe? They’re the kind of people that make you say, to them, “I love your energy!” because it’s what they pass along and spread to you. The next thing you know, you are in a good feeling because of them. These are the kind of people/friends you need in your life to have a positive life. That kind of experience happened to me last year.

Last summer, I would always see this elderly lady at the park getting in her miles a day. She’d always carry a stick with her and walk for what seemed like hours. She’d walk by me and smile a gentle smile everytime. One morning my car wouldn’t start. As I was sitting in the car she came up to me and asked if I needed help. I didn’t know the reason why my car wouldn’t start but she popped open my hood and told me my battery had died and that she would jump it for me. Relieved and embarassed at the same time, I thanked her. She went on to tell me the story of how she learned things from her husband and the good ole days. Moments later, a few minutes of chatting with her became an hour of laughing in conversation in the parking lot.

She told me her name was Lily and that she walks from 8am until 10am almost every morning. She told me she was in her seventies and that walking helped with her blood pressure and diabeties. I told her that my mom had the same issue and she said, “Yes, well she definitely needs to start walking.”

Later, I ended up getting my mom to walk with me and she started to feel brand new and was glad I talked to her into it. Had it not been for Mrs. Lily my mom wouldn’t have gotten the courage with me to walk. (I had been asking her for years to go on walks with me lol)

A new year came and I had gotten a new car. I would continue to go to the park and inhale the fresh air over the cascading lake, but my sweet Mrs. Lily was no where to be found. I would say a silent prayer that she was okay and that I’d meet her again one day. One evening as I was walking, I was hoping I’d walk by her. (I was losing hope that I ever would see her again.) Somehow, I noticed a lady that looked like Mrs. Lily, but she was thinner and had a grey afro. She smiled at me with that familiar gentle smile and I gasped saying, “Mrs. Lily?! Is that you?” 😊 I was so happy to see my friend again and she was happy to see me too. I explained to her how I always hoped to see her again and she told me she started coming to walk at 6am with a few friends. We caught up for a few minutes, but I really wished it was longer. We said our see you laters and went our own way…hoping to have another friendly encounter with each other again. That was the last time I saw her and I’ll never forget her. I wish I had asked for a way to stay connected with her, but I didn’t want to seem creepy lol

I would question if Mrs Lily were an angel because I never ran into her anymore since then. She had this grey hair like white snow and had that grandmotherly feeling. Sometimes just talking to her instantly made me vibrate high and she was filled with high vibrational energy. Well, angels are known to vibrate high. Unfortunatly you never run into these people again and sometimes you do.

Why is that?

No one knows.

Maybe she was an angel. 😇

Sayin Yes To The Bianca Dress From Sincere Sally Boutique!

As women, we all want to feel feminine and fresh; nothing tops it off than a simple breezy dress. When Sincere Sally Boutique sent me this dress, my heart dropped as I opened the packaging. I rushed to put it on and instantly imagined myself showing it off in public. The cool fabric against my skin made me thought of a windy day at the park with some ice cream. The pink color of the dress gave a hint of summer and spring time; this is great to wear during those seasons. The warm pink color could also get by in autumn too, but since it has a flower pattern I would let it stay in the categories of summer and spring.

The sandals to wear with this dress will have to be white, a warm pink or a woodsy brown. Since this dress makes me feel carefree, I believe the sandals will give the perfect style and grace for that added touch.

I don’t know how I could skip not adding a bag with this dress, but I’d consider something small because this is a light styled dress. (Let’s leave the big bags for the loud clothes, ladies. lol)

Feeling confident in this Bianca dress wasn’t hard to do. I put it on and stormed out the door as heads turned and cameras snapped. Add it to your cart and you won’t be disappointed, ladies.

SHOP THE LOOK HERE: sinceresally.com/…ducts/bianca-dress-pink

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Sizzle Into Summer With Summer Fashion!

 

As soon as I felt the blazing sun on my skin and saw the clear blue skies, I instantly felt a rush of excitement. Visions of an ice cream truck, the beach and SUMMER DRESSES started to dance in my head. Let me say that again, SUMMER DRESSES! I instantly hopped on the couch amidst my episode of The Golden Girls on replay and started to online shop via my cell phone. I was as giddy as a kid in a candy store. As I strolled websites such as Fashion Nova, Ebay and Amazon there were so many choices of dresses to choose from. Summer dresses seems to make shopping for the season so easy. The bright colors are already matching the summer theme and it’s simple because it’s a dress with so many different patterns and styles.

At first I was just going to be simple and just get one dress, but then the little angel on the side of my shoulder said to me ReNita, you are treating yourself so buy one more. It will be worth the money because this is something for you. I rubbed my chin before clicking the search bar again. The next thing I know I had added a third dress to the cart.

The first dress was this beautiful Bohemian polka dot chiffon wrap dress. I couldn’t resist staring at it, but it took me so long to decide on the yellow or the green. Of course I went with the green because it seemed like a calm color along with being summer-ish. The sway of the dress tail releases a sexy feel that I can already imagine.

*GET THE LOOK HERE: L90hpc18mFxIEZk0pEYYCf

The second dress made my jaw dropped. Green and white symbolized nature and earth and the pink belt at the waist will surely accent the waistline.  I am getting so many ideas of what type of jewelry to wear and I am thinking of big green hoops. This is the kind of dress that you can wear to the beach for a walk on the pier or either a brunch date with friends or that special someone.

*GET THE LOOK HERE: ebay.com/…e-Spli-Maxi-Dress/362898264564

Finally, the last dress! Aha! This fashionable boho dress screamed the word SEXY! I love how the design of the dress came with these zigzag patterns. The peach color around the chest will mos def make me stand out from the crowd. I hope it comes with some pockets, but if not then it’s fine with me. A khaki purse will top off the look with some khaki colored sandals. It’s both sexy and classy at the same time without revealing too much.

Well, I had to close my browser after making those purchases because I know I would have kept going, but can you believe that these dresses were under $80.00? Yes, I’m shocked as well. Maybe I could have kept going.

*GET THE LOOK HERE: ebay.com/…mmer-Swing-Dresses/202633611755

She Complimented Me At The Captain D’s Drive Thru: Acts of Kindness

Beautiful acts of kindness can happen anywhere. At a bus stop, at the mall, the nail salon or randomly at a Captain D’s drive thru.

💟Aww the cashier at Captain D’s (very young girl maybe early 20s) told me my lashes were pretty.  I’m always the one giving women compliments, but this time a sweet girl was kind enough to bless me with a compliment. 😊

💟I thanked her and told her that New York Nails hooked me up..she was shocked. I love to see women help and encourage other women on their beauty and their looks. I always believe self care is the best medicine for self love and confidence; with that, you have no time to envy or be in a bad mood because looking good makes you feel good.

💟I am glad that I was able to pass along that information for her. She was a very beautiful girl but nothing is ever wrong with wanting to get more beautiful if you want to for you 😉 I don’t believe women should let themselves go or feel the only time to be pretty or feel pretty is when they have someone in their life. It’s okay to flatter yourself and get comfortable with you.

💟💟What’s important is that women should do this act of kindness more often with each other. Too many of us are afraid to compliment each other and fix each other’s crown. It makes you feel good to give these small gestures and receive small gestures, but the outcome is REAL BIG with what was poured in and from your heart.

  ❤💋

MY TESTIMONY OF HOW JESUS HEALED MY LOW BLOOD

❤❤MY TESTIMONY OF HOW JESUS HEALED MY LOW BLOOD❤❤
I promised I’d tell my testimony of being in the hospital last week..for low blood anemia…when my body was in pain and I couldn’t walk, talk or eat from being so weak and a fever of 105. I was shaking and after dealing with the pain for 2 days in my home I forced myself to drive to the ER. All I could do was call on Jesus as I was withering in the hospital bed…and He healed me before the doctors gave me anything. I promised my story would be as detailed bc if I am gonna tell about what He did for me and when the doctors were confused I wanna tell it right… it’s been so hard to explain because what He did for me was …unexplainable.

I want my message to be right. As I was in that bed as the doctors were trying to find the root of my fever and anemia I was saying “If you can heal a blind man, a bleeding woman, a deaf man and a sick girl then I know you can heal me.” At one point I was worried about calling on Jesus because I was ashamed I hadn’t been to church in so long although I never turned away from Jesus but I used to be  praying to God, my ancestors, (sometimes deities 🙅‍♀️)..and would leave out one person..JESUS (over the years) I was in that sick bed saying “Why are my spirits telling me to call on you when I have spent so long away from my relationship with you?”  I grew up a strict Christian child in the church, got saved at 10 years old knew my bible from beginning to end, but later I did my own thing.  I had always been a messenger all my life and I work as a spiritual advisor using my gift that have helped thousands, but God got my attention and messaged me deeper than ever.

The spirit of the lord told me “Dont worry about how long it’s been since you’ve grown away from me…because I can get you back on instantly as fast as you fall in love with me. I will knock and you all you have to do is open your door (your heart) and let me step in. That will make up for all the time apart from me. If your faith is doubtless then I will make a way.”

As soon as I heard that and believed the message, my fever dropped, my back and stomach stopped aching and the chills and fever that had me shaking stopped. The nurses saw that I was better but still gave me IV’s, meds but decides to keep me in the hospital for extra care. They told me the medication a doctor had me on had caused so much and another day later they said they aren’t sure how the fever died down . They gave me a blood transfusion my last day just to be sure I’d be okay lol but it must have been holy blood because my visions and intuition and power had increased. I know the angels were roaming that hospital because I could have felt them there.

I knew they were working with the nurses and the doctors and the staff to take care of me correctly and they did…as soon as I found out the doctor that took care of me was related to me through my deceased grandmother Mary and a nurse that suddenly walked into my room to check on me happened to be a cousin I hadn’t seen since we were little girls.. (sent by my late great aunt Lena; her grandmother 😇😱) I knew they were sending me signs and signals. I KID YOU NOT!!!

ALL THE SIGNS WERE COMING OUT OF NOWHERE THAT ANGELS WERE WITH ME AND JESUS WAS WITH ME… I went in that hospital sick and weak for 3 days and rose better and stronger than EVER (like Jesus after 3 days) I realized I can’t do it without Him and haven’t been able to put my bible down ever since because I wanna keep that prescence I felt from Him going. It’s a good feeling.

I remember when I always thought I needed to wear crystal bracelets for protection but I need no tools..crystals, candles etc is good for the mood but no need to rely on those things when your faith in Jesus is bullet proof. You don’t have to be super religious to have Him in your life (I’m very spiritual) but if you have a relationship with Him and if you live right and let Him use you for guidance and not follow up the mind control that evil people have used through Him then that is all that matters.

All I can see is that He never left me, He gives second chances, He wants you to live a happy life and He wants your faith. If I hadn’t called on Him I’m not sure I would have gotten a good report in the hospital. I just thought I’d share that bc I owed it to Him..He doesn’t require much but love and for you to tell what He has done for you so others will believe. I can’t without Him. Since being home I have been ENERGIZED, HAPPIER AND I FEEL HEALTHIER!!! 🥰🥰☺️ Had that not happened to me, I wouldn’t have been as closer to Him. Thank you Jesus!

He’s Just Not That Into You..or He’s Just That Intimidated, Sis!

Hey you. Yeah you. The one sobbing and crying constantly checking your phone to see if you have a miss call or a text. You’ve already sent him 3 messages before he has even responded. You’re checking his page constantly and seeing whose photos he’s liking as you dwell in self pity. Okay. STOP IT! Pull yourself together and let it go like Elsa.. (Insert cheesy song from Disney’s Frozen here __________.)

Women go into overthinking mode and an ego reduction once they feel a guy has lost interest or has pulled away. Maybe it’s not you, maybe it’s him, maybe it’s you or…maybe he’s just intimadated. Have you ever thought of that? Men are very nervous at times and they don’t show it. I have had this happened to me in 2011; especially where some guys used to ghost me. The weird thing was that they even told me they felt intimadated because I was beautiful or was an author.

Total opposite and confusing right? 🙄

It seems backwards, right? Yes I know. I would think that being beautiful and doing something that showcased my talent wasn’t anything to make anyone scared; but sometimes it does. (For the scary guys who were afraid of chances, yeah.) So before you rest your head on your tear soaked pillow self sabotaging yourself, keep in mind that THAT could be a reason as to why your knight in shining armour ghosted you. (or has pulled away.) Sometimes people have things going on in their lives, but if they wanted you then they will make sure they show their existence sometimes….in fear of losing you.

If he ghosted you due to lack of interest, he could have been doing you a favor. You did nothing, but sometimes the chemistry may not be there and the universe designs it. (It’s called mutual connection.)

Not to mention that sometimes you are blinded by illusions (believing he is amazing when he hasn’t even done amazing things for you; so instead you are just imagining what it would be like and falling for a daydream. Women do this all the time when they get too excited too soon and it leads to getting hurt. Be careful..move step by step…that’s why they call it ‘building a relationship.)

When you are in the early stage don’t start daydreaming about the future yet. If he was never in a relationship with you then save your energy for someone that’s worth deserving of it. If he treats you like an option and never a priority then you have an answer. Save yourself some time and use this time to heal and regrow…regrow like green grass. (Just watch out for snakes 😚🐍)

Growing Up Submissive

😊I grew up in a very dominant and submissive household 🏡 lol My father was dominant and paid all the bills ..where my mom was a quiet submissive housewife. A little homemaker. She was never a loud argumentive woman with my father…probably because of his temper lol

Because of their dominant/submissive traits, I grew up a softy and quiet around others lol I would feel weird because I wasn’t loud or could get an attitude like other girls and it would be something I remember wishing I had. Lol It was also why I was the subject of being bullied. 🤦‍♀️

Sometimes we become the way we are from what we’re around as children; although both my parents took good care of us and loved us. Sometimes I wanted to question mother about why she was so quiet as a wife, but I never did. I figured it was a part of her nature since she grew up in an older generation. I noticed I developed her traits.

I see her as Super Woman, the way she raised me and my sister and also looked out for my other cousins when needed. She always cooked 3 meals daily for us and cleaned the entire home, did our hair and do almost everything. (It’s also why I like to do so many things.) If our clothes needed stiching or washing or if we were sick, mama took care care of it all.

Part of the reason why I was always quiet and shy came from watching her growing up. Everyone would always say “You’re so quiet. You’re always so giving. You go all out when you love someone.” Yes but sometimes being raised into submissiveness can be painful bc sometimes you are easily to get hurt or used for how giving you are. A lot of times in relationships I’d have a habit of saying “sorry.”

The best advice I can give if you are submissive is to make sure you aren’t giving more than you are receiving. Don’t give your heart to someone who doesn’t deserve it..especially if the person isn’t married to you. You’ll be hurt multiple. 🙂