I can’t resist oatmeal pecan raisin cookies, especially during the fall and upcoming holiday season. What could be more fun than scourging for a new recipe and baking with family during these times, right? This type of weather just gets me in the baking mood. If you have nothing else to do for the remainder of your day, go to your nearest grocer and make it a goal to bake. Baking is fun with family or alone for meditation (remember to include music and wear socks for kitchen dancing and sliding along the floor; this makes it fun as you’re preheating the oven. 😂)
So how does one enjoy such sweets without adding on the calories? Well my friends, the key is to not go crazy on the sugar ..letting the raisins sit inside gives the natural sweetness for me and where I can taste the oatmeal. I like being able to taste the oatmeal. 😋 (I didn’t add the vanilla and cinnamon though, but you can.) I have included the ingredients below!
1 1/2 cups pecans
1/2 pound (2 sticks) unsalted butter, at room temperature
1/2 cup of brown and granulated sugar each
2 extra-large eggs, at room temperature
1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 teaspoon salt (or kosher)
3 cups old-fashioned oatmeal
1 1/2 cups raisins
2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
1 teaspoon of cinnamin
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees
Place the pecans on a sheet or sheet pan… and bake for up to 5 minutes, until it is crisp. Set it to the side to cool. Chop very coarsley.
In the bowl of mixer ..beat the butter, brown sugar, and granulated sugar together on medium-high speed until light and fluffy. Keep the mixer on low, add those eggs after each other, and the vanilla.
Sift the flour, baking powder, the cinnamon, and the salt together into a medium size bowl. With the mixer now on low, add the dry ingredients to the butter mixture. Mix until combined, the oats, raisins, and pecans.
Using a small scooper or a tablespoon, drop 2-inch mounds of dough onto sheet pans lined with parchment paper. Bake for 12 to 15 minutes, until ligh brown. Move the cookies to a baking rack and cool completely. ENJOY!! ENJOY!!!
This fall weather with the warm sun gleaming on my skin made me hop in the Camaro today with the windows down. I grabbed my Chihuahua/Bull dog and we went for a hike along the lake. What made our hike so enjoyable and easy was this leggings set by Fashion Niva called Don’t Get This Twisted. When I saw it on the website I had to add it to my virtual shopping cart. I like that it can be worn with some sneaks or heels for two totally different looks.
The top can be worn off the shoulder(s) on the shoulders or tied tighter because there is a twisted knot in the back. COOL! I thank Fashion Nova for this creative fashion idea. There are many shades this outfit comes in that you can choose from.
If you read most of the clothing titles for the Fashion Nova outfits you will see that they send amazing messages. Since this outfit is named Don’t Get It Twisted, I take that as a sign to not twist things up in life. Don’t make too many assumptions and judge others before actually getting to know them. DON’T GET IT TWISTED! Don’t become so unorganized with your life and surroundings that it becomes a big mess and is hard to untangle. DON’T GET IT TWISTED! Learn to take care of things ahead of time instead of waiting until the last minute. Procrastination definitely will twist things up. DON’T GET IT TWISTED!!
Take your dog on healthy morning walks. Don’t keep them cooped up. My boy will be 12 in 5 more months and I have been walking him daily ever since he was a pup. Judging from this photo of our morning walk, he was so happy and smiling as the autumn wind blew through his fur. 😂🐾
It’s important to give them walks; as it makes them smile and brings joy to their little hearts. I have this belief that walking adds longevity to your life. When you walk your dog, you are helping them to live longer and add more years to their life.
Let walking be your dog’s medicine from nature and their mental therapy that relieves any stress. Walking your dog is good for their bones because their bones is what keeps them moving and increases healthy blood flow. (for a long life.)
The food I feed my dog is Blue Buffalo Life Protection Formula. For some reason, he prefers their puppy brand over their adult brand. 🤷♀️🤦♀️ 😂 Hmmm 🤔 perhaps because he is a small breed. I sometimes mix the small pieces of lean chicken or cocktail beef weiners into his kibble to add more variety and flavor. The way I do this is by adding miniature sizes into his dog food. Don’t feed your dog constant table food or bones if you want them to live longer. (giving them a chicken bone will harm their intestines!)
Don’t forget to make sure they have a healthy digestion. By doing this, you can detect if his/her stool shows he is constipated or healthy. Constipated stool will appear hard, small and round while healthy stool is rich in color and looks smooth. If their stool is runny, it could be due to bacteria. I know it may seem awkward to look at your dog’s poop, but sometimes it’s needed.
Ohh one other thing, dogs can catch a stomach bug too, did you know that? When this happens, sometimes I’d rub my dog’s back and take him outdoors to get some air incase he really has to release a load lol The best thing to do is talk with your vet if you notice a sudden change in your dogs stool because it is a sign of their health and what’s going into their bodies. Reward your furbabies with dog toys and treats because it uplifts their mood. Hearing a squeeky toy and playing fetch makes them feel so much high vibration.
Stay up to date on their medications and shots!!!
🌞 MR SUN! SUN! MR GOLDEN SUN!! Keeping the curtains open in the daytime is good for your dog. Why is this? because dogs love to sit in the sun and it gives them a feel of enjoying the outside. Dogs are naturally meant for being outdoors, so keep a little bit of the outdoors with them if they are living indoors. Sunlight brightens a dogs mood. It makes them rest, relax and it also brings them energy because it is a good source of vitamin D.
Taking your dog for a ride in your vehicle with the window down really excites them too and brings them happiness. TRY IT, but be careful so they won’t jump out the window. 😂 Nothing makes me happier than seeing my dog wind surfing on the passenger’s side looking at the traffic from the window. 😂
Sometimes dogs can suffer from being anti social so arrange playdates from time to time with other dogs or just take him to the park to at least walk by other dogs. Sometimes when dogs sniff each other, it’s a gesture of them being social to each other and yes, it brings them joy. Ever notice how dogs are so excited when they see other dogs? lol
Most importantly, be sure to keep your dog groomed and make regular checkups with your vet.
As crazy as this may sound, I talk to my dog and it gives us a bond. What’s funny is that, the more I talk to him (privately lol) the more he understands the English terms 😂 seriously!!! He understands so much..
Communicating with your dog and boosting their ego, telling them they are good boys and good girls actually encouragea them to feel good and releases the dopamine hormone- (rub their heads while greeting them causes them wag their tail) TRY IT!
Don’t forget to be happy and show positivity around their dog. Did you know that they can detect low vibration from you? If I am sad or in a bad mood, my dog will notice that and stare at me for a long time. If he sees that I am not feeling up to par, he starts to feel or behave sadly too. lol He is good with comforting me which I think it sweet and healthy on my end as far as being a human. 😂 If my sweet but sometimes annoying mom 😂🤦♀️ and I have our little mother/daughter rants he will go in the other room because he doesn’t like to hear any bickering. 😂 TRUST ME! So I prefer keeping my energy positive around my dog. Mom if you are reading this, don’t be grumpy around the dog. 😂
Well, I hope these tips and gestures will be as helpful for you and your furbabies as they are for me. They are dog-mommy approved by me and I have been living by it for years with my dog, making it our lifestyle. Now go out and give your fur-baby a hug and just be thankful for them. They make our lives happy and we should do the same for them.
Ahh facebook…the book that is an open book where people don’t say things to your face. (Insert thumbs up emoji here ____ 👍) During the year 2020, I had a total wake up call of re-evaluating myself.
When I say re-evaluate, I had to sit back and observe. So over the year, I have learned what this creepy website has taught me over the years whilst I reflect. Here are the top 8 lessons I have learned in numerical order
People Put Too Much Of Their Life Out There. Yes, by all means share what you want, it’s a free country but sometimes I’ll see posts where people are giving a whole reality TV series of their life. Every rant, everything about their sex life and everything about everything. I used to be a victim of this as well, but I stopped. I stopped when I realized strangers knew more about me than people that knew me. It can be scary and sometimes dangerous.
HATERS Things that make you go hmmm. This taught me that haters will be on to you like a hawk… old enemies from high school and people who will try to throw shade in your posts or DMs lol NEXT!
DRAMA Of course, when facebook asks what’s on your mind it’s an entrance for trouble. When you share your opinions that others don’t agree with this stirs up a whole lot of chaos hence why I never go that route. Phew. Ever notice if you share some bad news you get more reactions than you do with good news? People who barely interact with you suddenly come out of nowhere. Where you been hiding? 😂
Unfriended For No Reason What’s confusing is that I have had classmates I grew up with, friends and family I thought I were cool with suddenly unfriend me. I didn’t understand why because I never post anything negative etc. I think sometimes people have to unfriend you due to jealousy and that can be sad.
Copycats I admit, I am flattered a lot but there are people that will study you just to take your ideas. Hence, I don’t tell my plans anymore.
They Won’t Hit That Like Button Or Show Support I get a lot of support on my books, blogs and business from strangers than I do from people I know, believe it or not. It’s weird, I’ll get up to 1000 story views, but under 20 likes…makes me wonder if some of the people on my page are really there because they like me or just to get details to talk about me and not to me.
Some Married Men/ Unsingle Men Stay In Your Inbox Yeah, I don’t have to explain this one, but I’m like WHY?!!! 🙅♀️
Just To Brag and Show Off….. When I found out that some people will actually use facebook to brag for an ego boost my eyes widened. I admit, sometimes I share my good news but some good news I like to keep to myself. There are people who use it just to brag for relief and validation. When it gets to that point you have to ask yourself are you depending on others for your happiness?
So there you have it. I don’t use facebook deeply for some of the things I used to. Instagram seems to make it easier with privacy, but Facebook is good for keeping up with some things and sharing the positive aspects of my life.
Use it with caution!!! It’s like the tree of good and evil 😂
So I have a secret..lean in closer and I’ll tell you.. 🤫
a little closer…….. 😊
I HAVE AN OBSESSION WITH LEOPARD CHEETAH PRINTS!!!! What could welcome the season of autumn than the prints of a cheetah? When I saw these were on sale from Fashion Nova, I immediatly made my purchase online. I have always wanted to own a pair of cheetah print leggings and here they are snugging tightly to my glorious curves. The brown and black print naturally fits with the autumn weather and the bronzeness of my complexion.
The leggings don’t feel thin, the fabric is actually warm ad stretchy giving me a comfortable sensation. I have another confession, I wore these leggings two days in a row because they are so comfortable. They can also be worn in a dressy style with a brown or black top. I worked out in them and they make working out easy because of the material.
Get your pair of cheetah print leggings here, your legs and your booty won’t be sorry. 😚 https://bit.ly/34tlAEs
I just got an email from one of my blog readers telling me sometimes she doesn’t feel confident with her dark complexion. She’s so very beautiful both inside and out and maybe 19 years old… so I am trying to figure out why would she be so concerned. Beauty on the inside brings out beauty on the outside however. I am always humbled when I get emails from my readers that I inspire, but if you have low confidence because of your skin, you are going to have to work on your inner confidence FIRST and foremost. This mentality is forced down from the slave masters and from the media, sadly. Please don’t allow this to burden you from those who are still in mental slavery. They’re the losers! To judge someone for their complexion is insane- rather lightskin or darkskin.
I remember seeing this African model on MTV many years ago and she had a short bald hair cut. Many black people (our own people) would say she was unattractive while the other races praised her. However, when she walked the runway and spoke with confidence she appeared and seemed beautiful because she was beautiful from within. If she had any flaws, her inner beauty made her look super beautiful.
One thing I love to do is learn from the African models on Instagram and whenever I am traveling.. because they have amazing confidence and they embrace their feminism. When I’d travel to big cities, these ladies were full of confidence and always loved to dress up.
I admit, I am a stalker of Sedanase, Ghanan and Ethiopian models and I love being inspired by other women instead of being envious. LEARN AND EMBRACE! Most importanty, if you really want your dark skinned to be noticed and feel confident, the secret is to wear bright cool or bright warm colors. Another tip is to add a hint of cocoa butter oil to the skin or cheeks. This adds a certain glow to the skin. For some reason that is like seeing magic. Trust me!
If I were darker, I’d probably wear bright colors all the time just because of how it draws attention to chocolate skin. Luckily, you don’t have to really worry about acne scars or wrinkles lol You just need to love being you and keep looking good and feeling confident. Hope this helps.. -ReNita XOXO 💕💋
Yes, crew! I have been a victim of this in my early 20s. I remember wondering why did I always attracted perverts or men that only wanted to try getting into my pants. Insert 20 something photo below. 👇
Can you believe I went on a date in the left photo dressed like that and expected to be treated like a queen? and then come back home complaining about how the guy was such a pervert or a creep? Thank goodness for wisdom and growth. Okay, I do believe in flaunting your curves and shape, but wearing a deep low cut with a mini skirt short as a shirt on a date does not scream BE MY MAN! It screams BE MY MAN FOR THE NIGHT! It screams, I’M HOT IN THE PANTS! Also even if a woman is dressed a bit risque (that’s a fancy word for extreme.) it doesn’t give a man the right to proceed in treating her with disrespect and perverted-ness.
A woman should be treated with respect and not be judged just from her appearance, but sadly the way you dress will give people the radar of what kind of person you are. I know, I hate believing that too, but it’s true. What isn’t fair that people automatically will assume your easy based off your body. 🤦♀️
Here are some photos below that will give men an example that you are looking for a long term from the get-go. You can still be sexy and classy and embrace your body without exploiting who you are.
It goes both ways, but this is referring to women that wonder why they attract men that only want to get in their pants. What’s the message you are sending? I’m not saying dress boring or un-sexy, dress how you want by all means, but if you want more respect you can combine sexiness with class by not exposing every of your ass. lol
Not being so desperate in conversations and thirsty so soon, even if you are dressed nice. When you are just getting to know someone, the early stages and first impressions counts so much for the outcome.
During my younger days I’d dress this way at times going out, but it would give the idea that I was easy when I wasn’t. I thought sexiness and a sexy body would give me a relationship and that my figure or showing skin would make the guys I want go crazier over me and fall in love with me. Man, did I have it all wrong. 🤦♀️😂 A lot of young women believe this as well, but a person does not fall in love based off your assets. lol Yes, it attracted men but they were attracted to me for the wrong reason and not for what I wanted. I knew I wanted more.
I was dressed like I wanted a fling when I didn’t. Was it because I thought my body was the way to a man’s heart? Did I lack the self love to dress with self respect when I seeked love from others? This is why they say you can’t truly receive true love if you don’t love yourself first. Sometimes women will hate hearing that and think it means boredom, but trust me, it will help you in the long run and improve your self worth.
If you are seeking love, you should let your goodies and sexual side be the surprise within. If you love to show the print of your vagina in tight pants, have cleavage as low as the south of the border and booty cheeks hanging out of shorts, go ahead. 🙅♀️ If you want someone to first get the impression that you are long-term, you are going to have to not be so openly sexually at first or dress so raw during the first few dates .
If you want to dress sexy or like an instagram baddie, it’s fun too and represents your confidence of coming out your shell, but going over the top with it will immediatly give others the impression that you are fast ( even if you aren’t.) There is classy feminine, classy sexy and sexy trashy; which one are you okay with? So if you don’t want to be judged as an easy target, add some class or else you’ll attract trash. I hope this helps.
Here is a photo of me in 7th grade before I physically transformed and blossomed into a butterfly 🐛🦋 I also realized that people who were ugly on the inside can transform to inner beauty.
Remember when some of you all would call me all those rude names in the 7th grade and made fun of my weave ponytail? lol I admit, I was very much a tomboy and didn’t care about being pretty until my senior year of high school. I was just enjoying being a kid and wasn’t at my blossoming stage yet. So many girls my age moved so fast and I didn’t fit in. Many times I’d eat my lunch in the cafeteria bathroom so the bullies wouldn’t embarass me.
At this age, my bullies didn’t know of other things I had going on in my life. Junior high was a living hell. Imagine getting bullied everyday about your hairstyles as soon as you got on the school bus and then being bullied in school by both girls and boys..then riding the school bus home to get bullied again. 🤦♀️ Sometimes when I’d go home, my dad argued so much if my grades were low or if I had gained weight. Just like the kids at school didn’t know I had things going on at home, my dad didn’t know I had things going at school.
My confidence had dropped low at the time because of people; but no matter what, I always remained sweet until I pushed to the limit lol I find it funny, the same people that did me so wrong are asking for my advice today and my dad finally seems impressed with things I work hard for. I’m happy about that because it shows that people can change..The best advice I can give you is to treat others with kindness. I have this belief that being kind to other people and having a nice personality makes you all the more beautiful. Don’t be negative or dramatic in life. Blessings will soon follow once you are kind to others. Don’t waste time awaiting revenge. Their karma sometimes will allow them to become better people. Working on yourself mentally and physically is the greatest transformation of all.. To transform into a butterfly, you must use this time to work on you in those areas. To win and to get there is to not focus on them showing their ugly side, they haven’t transformed yet either. Keep smiling. Keep moving.
I just finished my 2 miles and I almost wanted to stop, but I kept pushing through to get to the end. I was always told if you want something hard enough you have to put in effort and make it happen. You can’t just sit around and wait for things to happen without kicking and pushing forward.
You must learn to kick through the walls and push away the negative. This concept is applied sometimes in Karate and even with skateboarding. (All thanks to Lupe Fiasco’s hip hop hit Kick Push.) When you see karate you see the martial artists going against the oppentant he pushes him and kicks him, blocking him from trying to win his victory.
In skateboarding, the skateboarders have a technique with their foot where they push to get some good motion and kick to glide through. I find it interesting that we must use the same techniques in life, but mentally. Are you kicking and pushing through all the BS in order to win your victory? Are you gliding through?
After driving in the rain from my favorite place, Taco Bell 🌮, I smiled as I turned up the volumn knob on the radio. Prince’s song Little Red Corvette filled my ears as I imagined the icon singing with his guitar on stage. I was taken by surprise as I had a chance to actually understand the lyrics and the meaning. I mean, growing up I always assumed he was referring to a red Corvette but aha I was misled. Prince was symbolizing a fast woman being like a fast car. It dawned on me
Little red Corvette Baby you’re much too fast Little red Corvette You need a love that’s gonna last
How many of you have been a little red Corvette or felt guilty of moving fast? lol It can be hard, especially when liking someone so soon. If you are looking for love, you are going to have to slow down and take it seriously. Serious means taking things slow. (refer to lyrics listed above lol ☝️) Although sex is apart of human nature, we must know how to seperate the mind from the lower anatomy in the early stages of dating when seeking a loving relationship. Many daters were lucky to still marry the one after giving it up on the first night, but in most cases it isn’t a guarantee. You should always be careful to guard your heart. (and your health.)
Coming from a guy like Prince (who is as sexual as they come, bless his soul) he is even admitting that men want love from women who aren’t fast. Sometimes women will become easy and fast when they think it’s a way to get a man to love them fast (because men are stereotyped as sex hungry) but actually the anticipation and sticking to your standards is what keeps them interested. (It makes you a challenge and challenges are more exciting and adventurous like a real little red corvette.)