2020 has been a total shock for some of us and things happened that caught us off guard. Perhaps since the era of the year changed, that was a bomb that landed on our heads. 😂 This pandemic and the longest election ever has made this year one of the strangest years drizzled in what the hell moments lol but I still had an overall good year. The year isn’t over yet though. Here are some of the BIG things that caught me off guard 😂
So my dog howls when I mention the name of his dog buddies. 🐕 I’ve never heard him howl before! I thought it was only a wild wolf thing. 🤔 I took him to visit one of his pals from the old neighborhood and he was pleased.
My best friend and I flirt A LOT now …nearly a decade later and BOOM where are all these weird feelings coming from that we don’t understand?… 💏.. lol 🤦♀️ Not…him. phew TOTALLY UNEXPECTANT. We both had to stop each other from flirting yesterday. 😂 I needed to go to my safe place and meditate 😊 Gosh, him? lmao 😂 now my heart is beating. phew
I gave up coffee months ago. I know, I don’t see how I did it but consuming coffee so much slacks up your routine. I had to let that habit go because I was totally dependent on it.. 🙅♀️ (refer to a previous blog discussing this dilemma lol.)
One of my dead plants from the summer started back blooming. I thought it was dead from all that heat this summer..I left it alone for months, but just like Lazarus, it rose from the dead. 😂 🥀🌹 It’s blooming yellow and I take it as a sign of renewal. I’ll rename it Lazarus lol
I got a blood transfusion over the summer while in the hospital.. bc I’m anemic 🧛♀️lol wasn’t as creepy as I thought…it increased my intuition. Maybe I’m a vampire because I do work part time as a psychic and I stay up late and love gloomy weather lol
I finally got a Camaro in January after dreaming of it as a child..Dreams really do come true 😁. ……………So there you have it. I am thankful that my surprises weren’t anything negative; if they were, it’s best to turn negatives into positives. What were some things that took you by surprise in this ROLLERCOASTER of a year? lol Oh yes and we had a full moon on Halloween, how unpredictable was that? lol
So early this morning.. my dog and I just left the park..we didnt stay there long lol..a couple was there…hugging and making up..the guy was skinny and tall with skin as dark as the universe, the girl was short and thick…they argued..she got in the car…dammit…he raised his voice..then said words to make her melt of how he loved coming home to his baby and his girl… Aww they must have been a family..once….I smiled…his effort was truth…I walked around the park (only halfway around.)…respected them..got in my own car..as the autumn wind kissed me…I smiled…didnt want to disturb. .their groove…hoping they reconciled…. wordz….from my sight.. ❤
I am all about self care and as a woman I feel it’s in our birthright to ALWAYS enduldge in the method of pampering. Growing up, I’d see women walk in and out of the salons and their skin would be so flawless. I can remember admiring their beauty and hoping to treat myself the way they did one day.
So here I am now, this grown woman at the age of 34 who is probably the age those women were when I was that tomboyish little girl curious about beauty. I am now the self care addict.
A friend of mine from Charleston mentioned a business that sells all natural self care products and I was like, “Girl, share the details!”
Goodoo Self Care is on my list of favorite shops on Etsy.com and honey, when I tell you that they have a virtual spa on their shop I’m not lying. I saw so many scrubs and facials to choose from. I immediatly added the Wake Up coffee scrub. (because now that I no longer induldge in the taste of coffee anymore against my pink taste buds 😭 my skin consumes it for me.). It wakes my skin up IMMEDIATLY; especially during the mornings when the weather is cold. HELLLLOOOO 🥶
Let’s face it, sometimes we can make a mess when making our home beauty products. I am glad that Goo Doo already has these items prepared and with a little more love. 💗 To check out their lovely shop, visit their Etsy shop listed below. Your skin will thank you! I know mine sure did
Since I have given up coffee over 4 months ago, I have gotten very creative with making healthy drinks. So I have this addiction for adding fruits to my orange juice in the morning. I wanted to share this wake up drink that’s bursting with vitamin c. I like to wake up to fruit blended drinks because it gives me just the right nutrients to jump start my day. WATCH MY VIDEO BELOW!!
Strawberries are good in vitamin c and so is orange juice. Having fruits early in the morning or before bed also helps with digestion, MOOD ENHANCING and helps you to use the bathroom (via #2 lol If you ain’t poopin then you ain’t groovin lol) I have also found out that making this fruity drink is great for relieving stress and makes you feel relaxed. (Insert yoga meditation pose here. _______ ) I like to sit by the window as the sun is shining on me and pretend that I am somewhere on a tropical island. It also wouldn’t hurt to add some tropical music to listen to in the background as you devour your tropical drink lol (ahem…passes you a virtual coconut cup with the umbrella straw. lol)
So all you need to do is chop as many strawberries as you like and add some non concentrated orange juice. THAT’S IT! You can cut the strawberries into small circles and toss them in the glass, afterwards pour the orange juice over the strawberries. All the vitamin C in there is enough to keep you glowing and going strong for the day. What’s fun is that after drinking the orange juice, there is the left over strawberries to munch on for a healthy snack. This drink is sure to give you the burst of energy you need to start your day or anytime you need a pick me up.
I can’t resist oatmeal pecan raisin cookies, especially during the fall and upcoming holiday season. What could be more fun than scourging for a new recipe and baking with family during these times, right? This type of weather just gets me in the baking mood. If you have nothing else to do for the remainder of your day, go to your nearest grocer and make it a goal to bake. Baking is fun with family or alone for meditation (remember to include music and wear socks for kitchen dancing and sliding along the floor; this makes it fun as you’re preheating the oven. 😂)
So how does one enjoy such sweets without adding on the calories? Well my friends, the key is to not go crazy on the sugar ..letting the raisins sit inside gives the natural sweetness for me and where I can taste the oatmeal. I like being able to taste the oatmeal. 😋 (I didn’t add the vanilla and cinnamon though, but you can.) I have included the ingredients below!
1 1/2 cups pecans
1/2 pound (2 sticks) unsalted butter, at room temperature
1/2 cup of brown and granulated sugar each
2 extra-large eggs, at room temperature
1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 teaspoon salt (or kosher)
3 cups old-fashioned oatmeal
1 1/2 cups raisins
2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
1 teaspoon of cinnamin
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees
Place the pecans on a sheet or sheet pan… and bake for up to 5 minutes, until it is crisp. Set it to the side to cool. Chop very coarsley.
In the bowl of mixer ..beat the butter, brown sugar, and granulated sugar together on medium-high speed until light and fluffy. Keep the mixer on low, add those eggs after each other, and the vanilla.
Sift the flour, baking powder, the cinnamon, and the salt together into a medium size bowl. With the mixer now on low, add the dry ingredients to the butter mixture. Mix until combined, the oats, raisins, and pecans.
Using a small scooper or a tablespoon, drop 2-inch mounds of dough onto sheet pans lined with parchment paper. Bake for 12 to 15 minutes, until ligh brown. Move the cookies to a baking rack and cool completely. ENJOY!! ENJOY!!!
This fall weather with the warm sun gleaming on my skin made me hop in the Camaro today with the windows down. I grabbed my Chihuahua/Bull dog and we went for a hike along the lake. What made our hike so enjoyable and easy was this leggings set by Fashion Niva called Don’t Get This Twisted. When I saw it on the website I had to add it to my virtual shopping cart. I like that it can be worn with some sneaks or heels for two totally different looks.
The top can be worn off the shoulder(s) on the shoulders or tied tighter because there is a twisted knot in the back. COOL! I thank Fashion Nova for this creative fashion idea. There are many shades this outfit comes in that you can choose from.
If you read most of the clothing titles for the Fashion Nova outfits you will see that they send amazing messages. Since this outfit is named Don’t Get It Twisted, I take that as a sign to not twist things up in life. Don’t make too many assumptions and judge others before actually getting to know them. DON’T GET IT TWISTED! Don’t become so unorganized with your life and surroundings that it becomes a big mess and is hard to untangle. DON’T GET IT TWISTED! Learn to take care of things ahead of time instead of waiting until the last minute. Procrastination definitely will twist things up. DON’T GET IT TWISTED!!
Take your dog on healthy morning walks. Don’t keep them cooped up. My boy will be 12 in 5 more months and I have been walking him daily ever since he was a pup. Judging from this photo of our morning walk, he was so happy and smiling as the autumn wind blew through his fur. 😂🐾
It’s important to give them walks; as it makes them smile and brings joy to their little hearts. I have this belief that walking adds longevity to your life. When you walk your dog, you are helping them to live longer and add more years to their life.
Let walking be your dog’s medicine from nature and their mental therapy that relieves any stress. Walking your dog is good for their bones because their bones is what keeps them moving and increases healthy blood flow. (for a long life.)
The food I feed my dog is Blue Buffalo Life Protection Formula. For some reason, he prefers their puppy brand over their adult brand. 🤷♀️🤦♀️ 😂 Hmmm 🤔 perhaps because he is a small breed. I sometimes mix the small pieces of lean chicken or cocktail beef weiners into his kibble to add more variety and flavor. The way I do this is by adding miniature sizes into his dog food. Don’t feed your dog constant table food or bones if you want them to live longer. (giving them a chicken bone will harm their intestines!)
Don’t forget to make sure they have a healthy digestion. By doing this, you can detect if his/her stool shows he is constipated or healthy. Constipated stool will appear hard, small and round while healthy stool is rich in color and looks smooth. If their stool is runny, it could be due to bacteria. I know it may seem awkward to look at your dog’s poop, but sometimes it’s needed.
Ohh one other thing, dogs can catch a stomach bug too, did you know that? When this happens, sometimes I’d rub my dog’s back and take him outdoors to get some air incase he really has to release a load lol The best thing to do is talk with your vet if you notice a sudden change in your dogs stool because it is a sign of their health and what’s going into their bodies. Reward your furbabies with dog toys and treats because it uplifts their mood. Hearing a squeeky toy and playing fetch makes them feel so much high vibration.
Stay up to date on their medications and shots!!!
🌞 MR SUN! SUN! MR GOLDEN SUN!! Keeping the curtains open in the daytime is good for your dog. Why is this? because dogs love to sit in the sun and it gives them a feel of enjoying the outside. Dogs are naturally meant for being outdoors, so keep a little bit of the outdoors with them if they are living indoors. Sunlight brightens a dogs mood. It makes them rest, relax and it also brings them energy because it is a good source of vitamin D.
Taking your dog for a ride in your vehicle with the window down really excites them too and brings them happiness. TRY IT, but be careful so they won’t jump out the window. 😂 Nothing makes me happier than seeing my dog wind surfing on the passenger’s side looking at the traffic from the window. 😂
Sometimes dogs can suffer from being anti social so arrange playdates from time to time with other dogs or just take him to the park to at least walk by other dogs. Sometimes when dogs sniff each other, it’s a gesture of them being social to each other and yes, it brings them joy. Ever notice how dogs are so excited when they see other dogs? lol
Most importantly, be sure to keep your dog groomed and make regular checkups with your vet.
As crazy as this may sound, I talk to my dog and it gives us a bond. What’s funny is that, the more I talk to him (privately lol) the more he understands the English terms 😂 seriously!!! He understands so much..
Communicating with your dog and boosting their ego, telling them they are good boys and good girls actually encouragea them to feel good and releases the dopamine hormone- (rub their heads while greeting them causes them wag their tail) TRY IT!
Don’t forget to be happy and show positivity around their dog. Did you know that they can detect low vibration from you? If I am sad or in a bad mood, my dog will notice that and stare at me for a long time. If he sees that I am not feeling up to par, he starts to feel or behave sadly too. lol He is good with comforting me which I think it sweet and healthy on my end as far as being a human. 😂 If my sweet but sometimes annoying mom 😂🤦♀️ and I have our little mother/daughter rants he will go in the other room because he doesn’t like to hear any bickering. 😂 TRUST ME! So I prefer keeping my energy positive around my dog. Mom if you are reading this, don’t be grumpy around the dog. 😂
Well, I hope these tips and gestures will be as helpful for you and your furbabies as they are for me. They are dog-mommy approved by me and I have been living by it for years with my dog, making it our lifestyle. Now go out and give your fur-baby a hug and just be thankful for them. They make our lives happy and we should do the same for them.
Ahh facebook…the book that is an open book where people don’t say things to your face. (Insert thumbs up emoji here ____ 👍) During the year 2020, I had a total wake up call of re-evaluating myself.
When I say re-evaluate, I had to sit back and observe. So over the year, I have learned what this creepy website has taught me over the years whilst I reflect. Here are the top 8 lessons I have learned in numerical order
People Put Too Much Of Their Life Out There. Yes, by all means share what you want, it’s a free country but sometimes I’ll see posts where people are giving a whole reality TV series of their life. Every rant, everything about their sex life and everything about everything. I used to be a victim of this as well, but I stopped. I stopped when I realized strangers knew more about me than people that knew me. It can be scary and sometimes dangerous.
HATERS Things that make you go hmmm. This taught me that haters will be on to you like a hawk… old enemies from high school and people who will try to throw shade in your posts or DMs lol NEXT!
DRAMA Of course, when facebook asks what’s on your mind it’s an entrance for trouble. When you share your opinions that others don’t agree with this stirs up a whole lot of chaos hence why I never go that route. Phew. Ever notice if you share some bad news you get more reactions than you do with good news? People who barely interact with you suddenly come out of nowhere. Where you been hiding? 😂
Unfriended For No Reason What’s confusing is that I have had classmates I grew up with, friends and family I thought I were cool with suddenly unfriend me. I didn’t understand why because I never post anything negative etc. I think sometimes people have to unfriend you due to jealousy and that can be sad.
Copycats I admit, I am flattered a lot but there are people that will study you just to take your ideas. Hence, I don’t tell my plans anymore.
They Won’t Hit That Like Button Or Show Support I get a lot of support on my books, blogs and business from strangers than I do from people I know, believe it or not. It’s weird, I’ll get up to 1000 story views, but under 20 likes…makes me wonder if some of the people on my page are really there because they like me or just to get details to talk about me and not to me.
Some Married Men/ Unsingle Men Stay In Your Inbox Yeah, I don’t have to explain this one, but I’m like WHY?!!! 🙅♀️
Just To Brag and Show Off….. When I found out that some people will actually use facebook to brag for an ego boost my eyes widened. I admit, sometimes I share my good news but some good news I like to keep to myself. There are people who use it just to brag for relief and validation. When it gets to that point you have to ask yourself are you depending on others for your happiness?
So there you have it. I don’t use facebook deeply for some of the things I used to. Instagram seems to make it easier with privacy, but Facebook is good for keeping up with some things and sharing the positive aspects of my life.
Use it with caution!!! It’s like the tree of good and evil 😂
So I have a secret..lean in closer and I’ll tell you.. 🤫
a little closer…….. 😊
I HAVE AN OBSESSION WITH LEOPARD CHEETAH PRINTS!!!! What could welcome the season of autumn than the prints of a cheetah? When I saw these were on sale from Fashion Nova, I immediatly made my purchase online. I have always wanted to own a pair of cheetah print leggings and here they are snugging tightly to my glorious curves. The brown and black print naturally fits with the autumn weather and the bronzeness of my complexion.
The leggings don’t feel thin, the fabric is actually warm ad stretchy giving me a comfortable sensation. I have another confession, I wore these leggings two days in a row because they are so comfortable. They can also be worn in a dressy style with a brown or black top. I worked out in them and they make working out easy because of the material.
Get your pair of cheetah print leggings here, your legs and your booty won’t be sorry. 😚 https://bit.ly/34tlAEs
I just got an email from one of my blog readers telling me sometimes she doesn’t feel confident with her dark complexion. She’s so very beautiful both inside and out and maybe 19 years old… so I am trying to figure out why would she be so concerned. Beauty on the inside brings out beauty on the outside however. I am always humbled when I get emails from my readers that I inspire, but if you have low confidence because of your skin, you are going to have to work on your inner confidence FIRST and foremost. This mentality is forced down from the slave masters and from the media, sadly. Please don’t allow this to burden you from those who are still in mental slavery. They’re the losers! To judge someone for their complexion is insane- rather lightskin or darkskin.
I remember seeing this African model on MTV many years ago and she had a short bald hair cut. Many black people (our own people) would say she was unattractive while the other races praised her. However, when she walked the runway and spoke with confidence she appeared and seemed beautiful because she was beautiful from within. If she had any flaws, her inner beauty made her look super beautiful.
One thing I love to do is learn from the African models on Instagram and whenever I am traveling.. because they have amazing confidence and they embrace their feminism. When I’d travel to big cities, these ladies were full of confidence and always loved to dress up.
I admit, I am a stalker of Sedanase, Ghanan and Ethiopian models and I love being inspired by other women instead of being envious. LEARN AND EMBRACE! Most importanty, if you really want your dark skinned to be noticed and feel confident, the secret is to wear bright cool or bright warm colors. Another tip is to add a hint of cocoa butter oil to the skin or cheeks. This adds a certain glow to the skin. For some reason that is like seeing magic. Trust me!
If I were darker, I’d probably wear bright colors all the time just because of how it draws attention to chocolate skin. Luckily, you don’t have to really worry about acne scars or wrinkles lol You just need to love being you and keep looking good and feeling confident. Hope this helps.. -ReNita XOXO 💕💋